HI all

[bdtraders]

I ve been on this forum a few months now and i have yet to actually introduce myself.

I live in northern county of san diego and work in the retail industry. I am 32 years old and have one son from a previous marriage. I am a romantic at heart, and speaking of hearts i have huge one. I love to talk, write and express my feelings. I have a fiance and she has 4 kids , 3 that still live with us. I love her with all my heart and I pray everyday that things will swing back to the way they used to be. All the things me and her initailly sat down and discussed that we hat ein relationships we have become.

[SALly]

I. All the things me and her initailly sat down and discussed that we hat ein relationships we have become.
Why does that happen? I just don't understand.

You must have your hands full with all those kids!! :D I have two and they keep me hoppin.

[eightball61]

I want a kid but I don't think I am fit for that yet since I am still a kid myself :D

[bdtraders]

lol lets just say that the bills are high, food is consumed quickly, and we do laundry daily. They are great kids I love them to death, they each have their own quirks but dont we all. Needless to say the only time there is peace at the house is when we are all at work and school and the cats get to relax in peace and quiet.

my view point is have kids in your late twentys and early thirties that way in 20 years they will be gone adn your still young enough to have fun.

[inquisitive]

I think early 20's is a good time for kids, that way when they move out your still young! I'm 22, and we'll be having a kid next year.

My father is exactly 20years older than me! Now that is too young lol. He had 3 kids by the time he was my age!

[eightball61]

I hope to be ready by 30. I want to get my life settled first and I want to make sure that I have a good life set for my child. I am not settled yet and thats why I feel that I am not ready yet...Heck I still live at home :eek: But I am saving for a house.

[Howard]

Hey BD.Welcome to the boards.I'm new myself.just started a few days ago and I'm trying to make a few friends in here.So,good luck on the board. ;)

[Howard]

I hope to be ready by 30. I want to get my life settled first and I want to make sure that I have a good life set for my child. I am not settled yet and thats why I feel that I am not ready yet...Heck I still live at home :eek: But I am saving for a house.



You still live with Mommy and Daddy? :D Hey,I'm 31 and I still live with my parents. :eek:

[eightball61]

I don't want to live in an apartment...I have been saving up a lot do this way I can get a house when I do plan to move out. It should be within a year or two by the time I leave. Right now, I pay rent to live with them and I don't mind doing that at all. I am 23 and I don't expect them to support me all the way. I consider myself as an adult and I want to learn to take on responsibilities so I offered to pay them. My mom still does her motherly things like my laundry and stuff but I do help out a lot.

[Howard]

I don't want to live in an apartment...I have been saving up a lot do this way I can get a house when I do plan to move out. It should be within a year or two by the time I leave. Right now, I pay rent to live with them and I don't mind doing that at all. I am 23 and I don't expect them to support me all the way. I consider myself as an adult and I want to learn to take on responsibilities so I offered to pay them. My mom still does her motherly things like my laundry and stuff but I do help out a lot.


Good Luck 8.unfortunately for myself,I can't live on my own right now,I'm not financially secure.I mean living on SSI for the past 10 years ain't doing shit for me so I may wind up living in a supportive apartment within the next couple of years or so but who knows right now.It's hard to predict this. :(

[eightball61]

Eventually, things will fall into place for you. Hard to tell when but they will. Just get the energy to make a change and things will happen.

[Howard]

Eventually, things will fall into place for you. Hard to tell when but they will. Just get the energy to make a change and things will happen.


Thanks 8Ball.I just hope they do.change is good and most of the changes I went through in the past 2 1/2 years I did them all by myself without my Mother's help and that's definitely a huge change right there.You just have to have the courage to do so.In every program I went to,If I've been there for many years I felt comfortable and treated most of the people like "family".But,eventually,you move away from the family and make the transition.But,you have to say to yourself that you want to do it and not feel afraid.Thanks again. :)