Pars03
02-26-2010, 03:59 AM
Wasn't quite sure where to put this so if it needs to be moved, that's fine.
I've been friends with this girl for about 3 years now and recently, about 6 months or so ago, I started having feelings for her that were more than just friendship (we're both 17). About a month ago, I decided that I would tell her how I really felt.
Before I say what her response was I should tell you that she's been in a relationship with another guy for about 2 years now. She is leaving for university in September this year, and she'll be about 7 hours away.
Anyways, after I told her that I liked as more than a friend and have for a little while, she pretty much said that she really valued our friendship and wanted to keep it that way for now. She said that she would definitely go out with me if she wasn't in her current relationship and that she could see herself liking me in that way. She said that she is just in a really comfortable place with her current bf and that she doesn't want to change things right now. She finished with saying that maybe it could happen in the future and that she really valued what we had now.
That being said, I'm at a loss as to what to do. I really like her and it's hard to see her with her boyfriend (we go to the same school). On the other hand I don't want to ruin what we do have as a friendship, but I feel to get over her I would have to stop seeing her altogether, and I don't want to do that.
Should I really try to get over her, and is it even worth it to risk waiting for something that may not even happen? I know these are questions that I have to figure out for myself, but I'm just looking for some advice.
Thanks to anyone who helps.
I've been friends with this girl for about 3 years now and recently, about 6 months or so ago, I started having feelings for her that were more than just friendship (we're both 17). About a month ago, I decided that I would tell her how I really felt.
Before I say what her response was I should tell you that she's been in a relationship with another guy for about 2 years now. She is leaving for university in September this year, and she'll be about 7 hours away.
Anyways, after I told her that I liked as more than a friend and have for a little while, she pretty much said that she really valued our friendship and wanted to keep it that way for now. She said that she would definitely go out with me if she wasn't in her current relationship and that she could see herself liking me in that way. She said that she is just in a really comfortable place with her current bf and that she doesn't want to change things right now. She finished with saying that maybe it could happen in the future and that she really valued what we had now.
That being said, I'm at a loss as to what to do. I really like her and it's hard to see her with her boyfriend (we go to the same school). On the other hand I don't want to ruin what we do have as a friendship, but I feel to get over her I would have to stop seeing her altogether, and I don't want to do that.
Should I really try to get over her, and is it even worth it to risk waiting for something that may not even happen? I know these are questions that I have to figure out for myself, but I'm just looking for some advice.
Thanks to anyone who helps.