Test was negative!

[Pamelina]

I went to the clinic and had a pg test done and that was the outcome. I am so relieved--I feel like I've been given a whole new chance in life. :D

He'll be the very last to know--if I ever even tell him-(I don't believe he has the guts to ask). And honestly, I'd rather tell good people I never met rite here than that piece of s***.

Thanks you for your support, all!

[eightball61]

Congratulations on those results and thanks for sharing with us :D :D :D


Time to have a drink and celebrate :p


You don't even have to tell him. Remember, your goal is to move past that and put him has a block to your mind. Just leave it be and move on like orginally planned.

[Pamelina]

That's so right. And I've decided that every day I will do something good for myself that moves me forward--past this time.

I sell a product that I make and I might have a new accout with a really popular store. Very hopeful about that.

Thanks eightie!

[bdtraders]

Congrats on the test

Yea keep moving forward, dont talk to him, walk past him give him the cold sholder.

Congrats on your new account also.

by the way what is your product?

[Howard]

That's great Pamelina.Good luck with everything and be sure to tell us the details. :)

[eightball61]

That's so right. And I've decided that every day I will do something good for myself that moves me forward--past this time.



Thats a great plan and let us know how it goes....You need to do things for yourself and there nothing wrong with spoiling yourself :D

[Pamelina]

Sending out hugs to you three, here. Your support has been terrific--caring, pointing things out, (I have to admit, I have been all too aware of him) and nudging me towards my tomorrows.

Am so glad I found this site--it really does the job! :)

[eightball61]

................. :cool:

[Howard]

So now Pamelina,what's going to happen?

[Diablo]

That's good news! Found a new jackass to replace your neighbor yet?

[Pamelina]

Well, Howard, I just think working on my home biz and every day doing something to nurture myself and a healthier social life. And looking to have relationships where I feel relaxed and like everything is okay.

Kind of like you, I am going to give some new things a try. I don't wanna say "lose myself" in keeping busy and reaching out to people. I think of it as getting back in touch with the real me I like. And not thinking about how I feel all the time--what hurts today? and that sort of thing.

Never again want to feel like I have to knock myself out and be so patient with someone for so little return. I didn't even feel comfortable around you-know-who without lipstick on! Have been so nervous since Dec.--way too long for anyone to feel scared, used, and not really wanted. I was so down and confused one nite with this person, I almost went to the hospital to bend some nurse's ear about the whole mess--too much.

Thanks for asking! :)

[Howard]

Well, Howard, I just think working on my home biz and every day doing something to nurture myself and a healthier social life. And looking to have relationships where I feel relaxed and like everything is okay.

Kind of like you, I am going to give some new things a try. I don't wanna say "lose myself" in keeping busy and reaching out to people. I think of it as getting back in touch with the real me I like. And not thinking about how I feel all the time--what hurts today? and that sort of thing.

Never again want to feel like I have to knock myself out and be so patient with someone for so little return. I didn't even feel comfortable around you-know-who without lipstick on! Have been so nervous since Dec.--way too long for anyone to feel scared, used, and not really wanted. I was so down and confused one nite with this person, I almost went to the hospital to bend some nurse's ear about the whole mess--too much.

Thanks for asking! :)



I wish you well Pamelina.Hope your business turns out for the best.What exactly do you do for a living? :)

[eightball61]

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Never again want to feel like I have to knock myself out and be so patient with someone for so little return.


Don't allow this to impact on future relationships. If you step back then the new relationship may not ever hit off the way it should be and you can set yourself up for many potentional bad relationships.

Your next relationship should be started off with caution and you shouldn't give up anything to fast and I agree with you to that. Relationships are a stepping stone and the more you roll into then the more you get comfortable to do more things.

This guy did take advantage of you and there are many more out there like him. You need to take every new relationship equel but also be cautioned at the same time. The best I found to work is just go with the flow and put in what you get in return. This is like the old saying " treat others the way you like to be treated" and this sort of runs as the same for relationships. Since relationship are based on team work then you only put what you are getting in return. Never give yourself up to soon thinking that will draw a guy in.

Many times it take months before you know what type of person you are dating. That is because in the beginning we all change to impress the other person. Once we get setted then the real person comes out. Many people get hurt because of all the denication they put into at the beginning. My vew is to spend the first months nto the relationshiphaving fun and getting to know your partner. Allow things to grow and then finally share that wonderful moment. The guys the end things early because you didn't give yourself up are the ones you don't want. Findig a partner is like the process of elimination and you lose many and win some. Just monitor you next relationship and take the desired speed you like so nothing from your past impacts the new relationship.

[Rich]

Congrats on your new lease on life.

Hopefully you've learned a lesson and the next time around you won't play with fire unless you and your BF are protected.

Live and learn.

Rich