bebas
03-01-2010, 07:32 AM
I have been with my partner for 18 months and for the most part it has been pretty smooth sailing and a lot of fun times.
He has been working in remote communities for the past 9 years and is leaving at the end of this year. I have only been working in the communities for 19 months (we met up here)
He told me a few days ago that he wants to leave the communities in December and take time out for himself to work out who he is and what he wants to do next. He doesn't want me to come with him. He says he doesn't want me to influence his plans. He says he doesn't want the pressure to make decision for two or have to compromise plans
After telling me all of the stuff above i stayed the night (over 3 hours drive to get to my place) and wanted to leave early in the morning. He wouldn't let me go and begged me to stay for breakfast to talk more about it. I don't really feel there is much more to stay.
I am confused because he says he loves what we have together. That he is falling in love with me. That he misses me already.
My question is - is he trying to break up and doesn't have the ball to do it? Is he genuinely needing some time out for himeslef and wants us to be togther after his 'self discovery journey'? Or is he eing someone who wants his cake (ie a relationship whilst he stays up here) and eat it to ( get to be free when he leaves)
What should I do?
He has been working in remote communities for the past 9 years and is leaving at the end of this year. I have only been working in the communities for 19 months (we met up here)
He told me a few days ago that he wants to leave the communities in December and take time out for himself to work out who he is and what he wants to do next. He doesn't want me to come with him. He says he doesn't want me to influence his plans. He says he doesn't want the pressure to make decision for two or have to compromise plans
After telling me all of the stuff above i stayed the night (over 3 hours drive to get to my place) and wanted to leave early in the morning. He wouldn't let me go and begged me to stay for breakfast to talk more about it. I don't really feel there is much more to stay.
I am confused because he says he loves what we have together. That he is falling in love with me. That he misses me already.
My question is - is he trying to break up and doesn't have the ball to do it? Is he genuinely needing some time out for himeslef and wants us to be togther after his 'self discovery journey'? Or is he eing someone who wants his cake (ie a relationship whilst he stays up here) and eat it to ( get to be free when he leaves)
What should I do?