Should I call it an end?

[ken]

I'm still holding onto a love that seems to have ended once or twice but does not really convince me so. Looking back, she was a person that made me feel like being friends with, asking for a date and started acting oppositely as I showed her my interest. I was depressed to hear her rejection but she kind of came back after the heartbroken feeling I had. My hope is that she come back to me one day like she did, yet it just seems to be more difficult as time passes and things change. I currently work in Tokyo and the girl I like is in the U.S. I do not know how shes doing and never get any replies even if I send her a letter.

Meanwhile, I have recently talked to one of my best adolescence friends in the U.S., who is also a blonde woman, about this matter and she suggested me to forget about her if I have to be treated this way. Sometimes I'm really worried if I'm just wasting time without any possibility. Other times, I still have a hope that she come back to me llike she did. I am somewhere in between and it is just sad.

[browneyedgirl03]

Ken, have you ever heard anyone say "if you love something, let it go and if it comes back...it's yours," well they know what they were talking about. It seems very unfair that you are putting yourself in this situation. You need to move on with life. I don't know this girl, nor am i the girl, so i can't say how she feels...but i think it's just best for you to move on with you life, take care of what you need to care of and take whatever life comes your way. I know the feeling of waiting on someone, because you are hoping they will come around. But it doesn't always happen that way. So just live life to it's fullest, and don't worry: when it's time, the right girl will come along for you. Good luck:)

[bv3qc]

Let it go man...

You see, some ppl have a problem... I don't know if it is true for the first love or what but here is what i think... I think that since this girl is the closest thing to perfection that you have met in your life, it sures worths it to keep on pushing to get something out of it ? right ? lie when you really want to get good at something you'll keep pushing yourself until you get it (sports, work, studies, etc.).

But here is the bummer... Even if your behavior seems the rationnal thing to do, well it is not the good thing to do... If someone doesn't feel the way you do, you can try to see if the can change their mind but ppl stick to their initial perception of yourself 95% of the time... the only way you can change that perception is on certain level like how they judge your work abilities, team abilities... usually the first feeling they get about your personnality stays the same with time unless something change their life and they completly turn around their values which is pretty rare...

so the advice for you is just to try to do something else and to try to forget about her... try to learn new stuff a new sport, a new art anything just get ore confidence and when you have learned what you had to learn out of this one... then you'll be able to try to meet someone even better than her even if you'll influence with what she has been for you...

good luck
phil