How can I get him to understand what he's wrong?

[U2010]

Hi! I'm 28 yeas old. Have a child. I lived with man 4 years. He was french. That was a horrible time in my life. We met in my university when I was a student. At the start it was romantic and good. When I was pregnant he promised that he'll help our baby. He'll not abandon his baby and he'll give his surname. He had lots to say about what it means to be loyal, what it means to be a man, what it means to be a father. When baby was born he didn't give his name. Then we had a difficult relationship. I grew up without a father. So I wanted daddy for my girl. He was my first man. I have always agreed with him. I was stupid. Once he told me: “Nobody knows that I have a child. I wouldn't want to spoil my reputation.” What reputation? Maybe you even blame me for being frank. I'm not asking for your pity I'm just asking for understand. I’ve nothing bad to do.
When we was in his embassy he spoke untruth about me. He said that I need only money. He didn't see his child. He’s afraid that I'll take a child away from my country. It's a lie! After embassy I tried to talk with him, but he start threatening me. He promised to call his lawyer. I think it has more to do with the fact that he’s willing to go to drastic measures to manipulate people and get what he wants. I tried to talk to him, but he wouldn't listen to me. I asked him to think. I proposed a compromise. I proposed be honest with himself and examine our situation, try looking at it from my perspective, whatever it may be.
I'm not asking for your pity I'm just asking for understand. I’ve nothing bad to do.
I cannot believe him and I cannot live with him. We cannot have a healthy relationship without trust. Raising a child in an unhealthy relationship is damaging to both the parents and the child. I know him and I think he told you untruth about me. Now it doesn't matter...
What Can I Do? Does somebody have the same problem? How can I explain to him that this hurts my feelings?

[smackie9]

This man you speak of only cares about himself. So even if I go up to him and tell him the damage he has done to you and the child, will not make any difference. He is what you call a snake in the grass. He picked you, because he knew you were a virgin and very vulnerable. He knew you could be manipulated very easily and he could easily control you. Sorry to say this but he only wanted from you. I suggest you talk to lawyer yourself, and see if you can nail him for child support.

[Diablo]

Smackie hit the nail on the head. Instead of trying to reason with him, you should be talking to a lawyer.