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03-04-2010, 07:22 PM
Let me start by saying i am a fairly insecure individual. i have had a lot of bad relationships, and have trust issues, the girl im with currently, i love and i treat her like gold. This, is how my current issue started.
Okay, so here is the situation.. i have been dating this girl, for about 2 months now. We had such a strong pull towards each other from the start, and started dating very fast. I texted her quite a bit, with her continuing the conversations etc.. I live roughly an hour away during the week, and weekends im about 20-30 mins away. We would go out EVERY chance we had.. and if that didn't work, we would just go to her house, and watch TV, or something to that effect. On her Facebook during the week, she would always post how much she misses me, and loves me ETC.. send me texts saying the same.. we would always try and plan the weekend 2-3 days in advance. Recently, we had our first argument.. (namely 4 days ago.) basically what happened, was she came to pick me up to go to a restaurant, as I don't have a car currently.. she had a paper to write for college, and we just eat and she dropped me off at home. I posted on my facebook, I was sad I only got to see her for such a short period of time.. and I texted her, (at the time, I didn't think about this..) I said that I cant stand living in Hartford, so far from friends and family.. that it was ing with my emotions.. And I think she took that personal. After that night, she didn't text me, and wouldn't respond to me when I texted her. I knew she was mad.. and what did I do? it up more, by not giving her space.. I since have appoligized, and told her what i really meant.. she is talking to me now, but less. she isn't really motivated to do all too much.. I went to lunch with her yesterday.. and I am now backing off a little allowing her more space. it went OK. She was a little withdrawn, said less, but not nothing. when I left, we pretty much had the same ritual, hugged her kissed.. and said bye. today, i gave her a break, and I didn't really bug her, as i know she has a lot of class work due this coming week. i talked to her like an hour ago, asked if she was busy, she said no. so we talked roughly an hour.. i was pretty much leading the chat, if I didn't say anything she wouldn't either.
^that was roughly 2 weeks ago.
So, more recently, similar things as to this.. we still have terrible communication, which can be attributed to multiple reasons.. such as her phone gets 0 reception where she lives. Another reason would be she is very busy with college at the moment. We still hang out every weekend, but for me, it doesn't seem as sincere.. Much less physical contact. seems like im the only one that initiates a hug or a kiss.. I don't know if this is because i have been to Clingy..? (I think it has the most do to me being so clingy, and i have since stopped.. ) and maybe she lost a little interest.. ? or if she actually sees me as a friend, and just doesnt want to admit that to herself.. I am friends with her freinds as well, and they say that she is a very honest and loyal person.. and I totally agree.. i'm just having trouble understanding the lack of physical contact when i see her.
Okay, so here is the situation.. i have been dating this girl, for about 2 months now. We had such a strong pull towards each other from the start, and started dating very fast. I texted her quite a bit, with her continuing the conversations etc.. I live roughly an hour away during the week, and weekends im about 20-30 mins away. We would go out EVERY chance we had.. and if that didn't work, we would just go to her house, and watch TV, or something to that effect. On her Facebook during the week, she would always post how much she misses me, and loves me ETC.. send me texts saying the same.. we would always try and plan the weekend 2-3 days in advance. Recently, we had our first argument.. (namely 4 days ago.) basically what happened, was she came to pick me up to go to a restaurant, as I don't have a car currently.. she had a paper to write for college, and we just eat and she dropped me off at home. I posted on my facebook, I was sad I only got to see her for such a short period of time.. and I texted her, (at the time, I didn't think about this..) I said that I cant stand living in Hartford, so far from friends and family.. that it was ing with my emotions.. And I think she took that personal. After that night, she didn't text me, and wouldn't respond to me when I texted her. I knew she was mad.. and what did I do? it up more, by not giving her space.. I since have appoligized, and told her what i really meant.. she is talking to me now, but less. she isn't really motivated to do all too much.. I went to lunch with her yesterday.. and I am now backing off a little allowing her more space. it went OK. She was a little withdrawn, said less, but not nothing. when I left, we pretty much had the same ritual, hugged her kissed.. and said bye. today, i gave her a break, and I didn't really bug her, as i know she has a lot of class work due this coming week. i talked to her like an hour ago, asked if she was busy, she said no. so we talked roughly an hour.. i was pretty much leading the chat, if I didn't say anything she wouldn't either.
^that was roughly 2 weeks ago.
So, more recently, similar things as to this.. we still have terrible communication, which can be attributed to multiple reasons.. such as her phone gets 0 reception where she lives. Another reason would be she is very busy with college at the moment. We still hang out every weekend, but for me, it doesn't seem as sincere.. Much less physical contact. seems like im the only one that initiates a hug or a kiss.. I don't know if this is because i have been to Clingy..? (I think it has the most do to me being so clingy, and i have since stopped.. ) and maybe she lost a little interest.. ? or if she actually sees me as a friend, and just doesnt want to admit that to herself.. I am friends with her freinds as well, and they say that she is a very honest and loyal person.. and I totally agree.. i'm just having trouble understanding the lack of physical contact when i see her.