Updates :-\

[dvs ladii]

Hey guys, this is my update thread, i've made two other threads which consisted of my problems, so now i'm making one to update it for the people that were helping me.

Everything seems pretty fine to me, i'm not too depressed anymore, but he still talks to me as a "friend", i'm kind of torturing him for the harsh things he had done (see other threads if you must) but everythings going smooth...

He still hasn't realised its his mistake for listening to that b*tch, if i bring up the topic of what happened last time, he gets mad :confused:. We do talk on the phone, i'm not going to lie, and he talks to me like he's still my boyfriend, like for instance when we're talking, we'll end up arguing over little things, and then back to normal the next minute, yet he still rubs it in my face at the same time that he never loved me, and we're never going to get back, MIND YOU, but I don't want to get back with him anymore. If i ever forgive him for being the as*hole that he was, i know i will hurt myself all over again, so it's better for me to refrain myself from being the dumbass and falling for him again.

I'm somehow convincing myself that this was a mistake and I need to move on with my life, which is quite working because I know if I end up with him again, I will definitely hurt myself 100x harder then what has happened. But everytime I do something, I find him in it, lets say if i'm listening to some song, he comes to my mind because he used to listen to it, if i sit down to play Need for speed (video game) it reminds me of him because that was his favorite, if i go out, i think of him because i used to call him up and tell him to come hang out with me, if i talk to him on the phone it brings back memories of what we had. Gosh, i'm really hard headed, i need some sense knocked it to me... :mad:

Yes, i'm still emotionally hurt, I don't know how longs its going to take for me get over him, but I know this was a relationship that wasn't destined to be. So yes guys, here are my updates, I'm doing OKAY but not GREAT. But I guess i'll survive. ;). Lifes too short to sit back and cry for someone who isn't worth those tears, people change, shit happens but life still goes on, right?..YUP... :p

[eightball61]

like for instance when we're talking, we'll end up arguing over little things, and then back to normal the next minute, yet he still rubs it in my face at the same time that he never loved me, and we're never going to get back,

What is talking to him doing for you?

I told you before and will tell you again its not doing anything. I am glad you made the choice you are not going back and that got me lost onto why you are talking to him still. I told you he is still going to hurt you and thats what he is doing. He is doing this to make himself feel better about the situation. If you are strong enough to realize you don't him back then you should be strong enough in not wanting to talk to him.

[dvs ladii]

Yeah, I think i'm the idiot over here, seriously, because I talk to him to make myself feel better, i mean i don't know why?, I still have feelings for him but i don't show him those feelings because thas just going to give him more ways to hurt me. I try my best not to talk to him on the phone but then something just tells me to pick up the phone and talk. I think he's the biggest asshole i've ever bumped into, okay fine, you don't want to be with me, you've already said it like um i don't know 23821890832091830918309 times, and YES i got that, I don't want to get back with u either. I promise myself, from today i'm not going to pick up his calls at all, and if I do, i'm the biggest loser to walk this planet. LOL :p

[eightball61]

You dont see it but deep down you feel this....You feel that talking to him may eventually lead to a change and bring things back to normal. You see the hurt he has cause though and you have not yet fooled that inner feeling that things won't change. He continues to hurt you and thats why its best to stop talking to him because you are not getting anywheres with that except more hurt.

[dvs ladii]

You just took the words right out of my mouth, and honestly thas how i feel, exactly how i feel, I think that talking to him MIGHT change things. Theres a part of me that doesn't want to be with him, and yet there is still a part of me that hopes everything can get back to the way it was. I don't want to be with him, and yet I don't want him to get into another relationship with different girls, I feel so confused :confused:. All in all i'm not depressed, yet i still am kind of upset for the way things turned out to be and the way things happened in a blink of an eye.

[eightball61]

I know you are confused and this will continue for sometime. All you can do is try to keep your head up and avoid the possible things thats get you confused. Work it little by little but more and more day by day.

[dvs ladii]

That's exactly what i'm trying to do, keep my head up and work on it little by little yet more day by day, hopefully in no time i'll be alright and over this.

[eightball61]

Its going to take time and you know that...Just stick to your game plan and allow your mind to figure things out. You may have to force yourself sometimes in not doing something to go back but just be firm and stick to the plan....I am routing for you ;)

[dvs ladii]

Lol, thanks eightball, i think that i'm a strong girl, after all this happened, i only broke down once and cried, and that's about it. But, I know its going to take a long time for me to get over him, because theres so much that me and him been thru in the past 3 years, theres so much that i've done for him, and we were at a point where we wanted to get married, we even had our babies names planned out, he even gave his mom hints about me and how he wanted to get married to me now he tells me that everything that he said was fake. So i don't know how long its going to take for me to get over this.

[dvs ladii]

Oh and btw I wanted to put in a song in my voicemail, so everytime he hears it, he knows how i felt, but i don't know if i should?

[eightball61]

Remember, you are trying to move on...So just drop that whole idea or an idea that may try to get him back unless you like the way he treated you. We both know you don't and he hasn't change so its time to drop it and move on.

[SALly]

No don't put the song on your voice mail....
My mom always said "Living well is the best revenge!!"

[dvs ladii]

Eightball - yeah i guess you're right, i'm not trying to get him back for the most of it, and nope I do not like the way i got treated like that, he acts like i never existed in his life :confused:

Sally - your mom is right on the saying, i agree with it all the way, so therefore, i won't put the song in my voicemail.

[SALly]

Goodluck- relationships can be so rough.....nothing is ever EASY!!!!!!!

[eightball61]

he acts like i never existed in his life :confused:



Then why do you need to get his attention or give him the attention. If he acts like this then you need to do the same and allow yourself to move on.

[dvs ladii]

Sally - thanks. i'm going to need that luck in order for me to help myself to move on.

Eightball - i won't give him the attention he needs, i haven't been doing that, everytime he says something i rub it in his face how we're JUST friends and that's all we'll ever be. So yeah, he's not worth getting the attention.

[eightball61]

You were giving that attention by still picking that phone up after you said your gonna leave it be. Disconnect your phone off the wall but you need to do something...

[dvs ladii]

I know, i remember telling you that I wont pick up the phone, but you know its not that easy, so i guess that was giving him the attention. But the only way i can escape from this is by changing my cell number, which I will do today.

[eightball61]

If he is calling you cell then you can call your provider to have his number blocked. He can get through using another number though. If you have voicemail on your phone then just turn it off and check it so often.

[dvs ladii]

The only way I can ignore it is by turning off my voicemail, if i change my number its going to be too big of hassle, going out and giving it to a few ppl all over again.

[eightball61]

I never mentioned you should change your number. Just leave your phone off and allow him to get the hint or just tell him,

[dvs ladii]

Yeah i know you didn't mention the fact that i should change my number, i was saying it from my side.

Turning my phone will help me too, because that way i won't pick up his calls.

On the other hand, i'm really disturbed right now, thinking the fact that my "bestfriend" always wanted me and my boyfriend to break up, now that she has done it, she thinks she has won and she's so happy at the fact that he hates me and isn't with me anymore. This is getting on my nerves right now.

[SALly]

Sorry. It is terrible how friends can get under your skin like that.

[eightball61]

Then take a break from it all and find something else to do and talk about it latter. Clean your car, house, or pick up an old hobby.....Give yourself something to do for a bit.

[dvs ladii]

Tell me about it man, and i thought of this girl like my sister all the time, yet she went on and did such harsh things, she even took the love of my life away from me, but as they say what goes around comes around, its going to come to her and i hope it she realises what she did was wrong.

[dvs ladii]

I try my best to do everything that i possibly can to get a hold of myself, like i mentioned before I find him in evreything I do. I don't feel like doing much either, I used to be so interested in cleaing up the house, cooking, etc now i don't even feel like doing that, i'm slacking off of everything that I had interest in. Break-ups really suck, and as they say leave the pieces of the broken heart alone because if you try to pick them up you'll hurt yourself. Blah.

[eightball61]

I know you dont have the engergy to do anything but sometimes you need to just force it. Its nice to relax but often doesn't help when your mind is stuck on one thing. Give certain things a try and even if you dont have the energy just give it a try.

[dvs ladii]

I try my best to do everything, today i cleaned up the whole house, did the dishes, cleaned up my room, cleaned up the living room, cleaned up my parents room, did the vaccum, everything i could do, i did. And my mind still doesn't get off this incident. I'm home alone half the time so that's why i get really upset. But I'm thinking of going out to Miami, FL, during the memorial day weekend.

[Howard]

DVS,Could you possibly give ME an update? I just came in to see what was happening.

[eightball61]

But I'm thinking of going out to Miami, FL, during the memorial day weekend.


That will be fun....Stop thinking about it and just go. You deserve to have something like this for yourself. IF you go be careful but have fun...Will you be going alone? I hope not :eek:

[dvs ladii]

Howard - what kind of update?...do you want to know how this started?. I'll give you an update just let me know what it is.

Eigthtball - I'm looking forward to either going there or puerto rico, and nope i'm not going alone, i'm going with a bunch of my girlfriends. When i come back i'll give you updates ;)

[Howard]

Howard - what kind of update?...do you want to know how this started?. I'll give you an update just let me know what it is.

Eigthtball - I'm looking forward to either going there or puerto rico, and nope i'm not going alone, i'm going with a bunch of my girlfriends. When i come back i'll give you updates ;)



An update of what's happening so far.Yes,I'd love to know how all this got started.

[eightball61]

= When i come back i'll give you updates ;)


You better and have fun you lucky bum :p ;)

[dvs ladii]

Alright, i'll give you updates and i'll make a long story short.

This all started Thursday night wne my "bestfriend" filled sh*it in my boyfriends ear about me, she went and told him how I don't like him and all of that kind of stuff, she also told him that I talk to his younger brother and tell him everything (his younger brother is 15 years old and I am 20), now i don't understand why would I want to tell a little kid my personal matters with his brother and I.

My "bestfriend" goes out with my boyfriends brother, and she has both of them under her spell, so whatever she tells them, they believe it.

So thursday night, I get a call from my boyfriend, he's nice in the beginning for 2 minutes and then he starts yelling at me, and sweariing at me, he tells me i'm a 2 faced , i'm fake and how he is tired of my 3 year relationship bullshit. He tells me he never loved me to begin with, it was all a game. I begged him to let me explain to him, but he never gave me a chance and simply replied with "NO MORE CHANCES FOR YOU, ITS OVER).

Now, my "bestfriend" tells him how she will hook him up with one of her girls and she also writes in her online diary how all of them are making plans to go to chicago (that's where the "bestfriend" lives). She also writes how he is excited about it, but when I confront of him about he laughs it off and tells me it's not true and then keeps switching his answer from yes to no.

We were pretty serious as I see it, we made plans to get married. we even had our babies names planned out, he was giving hints to his mother on how he wanted to marry me.

Everything happened too quick, and I was not even looking forward to it. I hope this explains it enough, it's pretty long, but this is how everything started :confused:

[dvs ladii]

LOL :p , thank you eightball, I will make this trip the best of it.

[eightball61]

LOL :p , thank you eightball, I will make this trip the best of it.


I will be sending my sole down there to so it can have fun while I am stuck here working :D

[dvs ladii]

Lolol, it's okay you can imagine being there with my friends and I, i'm pretty sure when your mind is in that state, you'll be having fun :p.

Btw speaking of work, i'm going to return back to work too, so everything can be easy.

[eightball61]

Take care and keep us posted ;)

[Howard]

Wow DVS.I'm sorry about that.Why did he say it was over for the both of you's? :confused:

[dvs ladii]

Because he thought that I actually did talk behind his back when I never did, it was my bestfriend who used to say dirty things about him to me, so she somehow flipped the story around and used it against me, and to top it off she told him i talk to his younger brother. He fell for it and swore at me and all that and also said that me and him can't ever be because I'm a liar. :confused:

[eightball61]

You ain''t no lier so stop....He is an ass and you don't need that in your life. He did you a favor by ending it so charish that rather than blaming yourself.

[dvs ladii]

Oh hi there eightball lol, that response was for howard since he asked why me and my boyfriend were over.

[eightball61]

I know but I am just reminding you that its not your fault.

[dvs ladii]

Yeah I know its not my fault, that's why I don't care what OTHERS have to say, as long as I know I didn't do anything wrong I dont have to prove anything to anyone.

Anyways, how are ya?

[eightball61]

i am doing well today....its been a busy day here and I may have to get workers comp because of carpel tunnel on my wrist :D

[dvs ladii]

Hmm, what happened to your wrist?

[eightball61]

nothing just making the joke that all this typing can cause carpel tunnel probably.

[dvs ladii]

Oh lol, slow me :eek:, but your typing is helping a lot of people ;)

[eightball61]

What about me :mad: ....haha kidding I got help here to :D

[SALly]

Yeah Eightball-- you should get paid for all your therapy.... :D

[eightball61]

I have enough jobs....I need to volenteer once in a while :)

[dvs ladii]

I think eightball should just become a therapist ;)

[eightball61]

Naw.....Its not my kind of thing. Talking with you all is my thing though ;)

[Howard]

i am doing well today....its been a busy day here and I may have to get workers comp because of carpel tunnel on my wrist :D



One word of advice:don't even have tonight cause of your carpal tunnel. :D

[Howard]

Oh hi there eightball lol, that response was for howard since he asked why me and my boyfriend were over.


I'd say don't even bother with that shmuck.He's not worth it. :mad:

[Howard]

I have enough jobs....I need to volenteer once in a while :)



Where would you like to volunteer?

[dvs ladii]

Howdy howard, good to see you again ::waves::

And as for that schmuk, ehhh I don't need stress in my life, so he's blocked from every angle of my life :D

[eightball61]

Just keep strong like you have been dvs ladii... ;)

[Howard]

Howdy howard, good to see you again ::waves::

And as for that schmuk, ehhh I don't need stress in my life, so he's blocked from every angle of my life :D


That's good to know.just move on with your life. :)

[dvs ladii]

Indeed eightball ;)

Howard - that's what i'm trying to do, trying to move on from my past to better things.

[Howard]

Indeed eightball ;)

Howard - that's what i'm trying to do, trying to move on from my past to better things.



Cause you don't want to dwell on the past you want to look forward to the future. :)