Hello All!!!

[sagg22]

I was reading through some of these threads and realized that I myself also never took the time to say hello and introduce myself to everyone. I guess that I was just anxious to plunge right in.
I am 21 and am going to college and working part time as a server. I know sounds like the typical college student. Blah.
I recently changed my major to creative writing/fiction. That is my passion (aside from my passion for romance). I spend most of my day writing or observing the world around me and stealing material from everything I see. It is a great way to see the world. Life is messy and there is so much power in it.
A little over a month ago I got involved in a not-so-typical relationship. I am 'dating' , if you will, another man and woman. Yup, the joys of a threesome. Twice the pleasure, twice the pain. So far just a lot of love and pleasure though.
It is scary falling for two people at one time. It's a strange dynamic to get used to, especially when they have been together 5 years and I am sort of being woven in. But it is wonderful. Hard to say where it is going, but I am willing to risk it all to find out.
Can't wait to get to know you all better. I am already addicted to checking these all throughout my day.
Sagg22

[eightball61]

Sagg, welcome to the boards and sharing with us what you are going through at the moment.

[Howard]

Hey Sag,Welcome to the boards.My name is Howard from New York City.How are you these days? :D

[sagg22]

Things have been going good these days. Thanks for asking. You are all so nice and welcoming.
My girl has been out of town the past few days so I have been missing her a ton. I get to see her tomorrow night though! :D
It's good to meet you all. I am anxious to get to know more about you all too.
A

[eightball61]

I am anxious to get to know more about you all too.
A


We have such a great little community now and its just getting better day by day with people like you :cool:

[Howard]

Things have been going good these days. Thanks for asking. You are all so nice and welcoming.
My girl has been out of town the past few days so I have been missing her a ton. I get to see her tomorrow night though! :D
It's good to meet you all. I am anxious to get to know more about you all too.
A


You have any special plans with your woman the next couple of days or so? ;)

[sagg22]

I don't have anythings specific planned. She comes home tonight around 8, right when I get off work. It was a stressful trip for her so we are going out somewhere tonight to get drinks and whatnot. I don't think either of us care what we do, I just want to be near her and in her arms. ;)
One of the frustrating things about the dynamics of a threesome is that I would love to do something great and special for her, but then would that make him jealous? Or if I did something for just him, would it bother her. So far whenever I have done anything, got them flowers, gifts, a card, it is for both of them. I think eventually after more trust is established and things are more comfortable it wouldn't be such a worry. But right now there is this constant trying to keep things balanced. Not leave anyone out. Make sense?
Is that the smartest thing for me to do? :confused:
A

[eightball61]

But right now there is this constant trying to keep things balanced.
A


In the situation you are in balance will be your friend. You all will have to work together and trust together in order to make this thing work long-term. Its fun but if all 3 of you wanted more than fun out of it then you all have to work together for that goal.

[Howard]

I don't have anythings specific planned. She comes home tonight around 8, right when I get off work. It was a stressful trip for her so we are going out somewhere tonight to get drinks and whatnot. I don't think either of us care what we do, I just want to be near her and in her arms. ;)
One of the frustrating things about the dynamics of a threesome is that I would love to do something great and special for her, but then would that make him jealous? Or if I did something for just him, would it bother her. So far whenever I have done anything, got them flowers, gifts, a card, it is for both of them. I think eventually after more trust is established and things are more comfortable it wouldn't be such a worry. But right now there is this constant trying to keep things balanced. Not leave anyone out. Make sense?
Is that the smartest thing for me to do? :confused:
A


So you actually want to try a menage a trois? :confused:

[Howard]

Things have been going good these days. Thanks for asking. You are all so nice and welcoming.
My girl has been out of town the past few days so I have been missing her a ton. I get to see her tomorrow night though! :D
It's good to meet you all. I am anxious to get to know more about you all too.
A


Believe Me,you'll get to know me as the months roll by. :)

[sagg22]

So you actually want to try a menage a trois? :confused:

Thats right. Have been trying it for 5 1/2 weeks now and it has been going great. I'm sure I must be crazy getting into this. Most of the people that I talk to tell me that no matter what I will end up hurt. It's a risk that I am willing to take though, just in case in doesn't turn out that way.
This is deffinatley not just some fling (even if it is a ton of fun ;) ). All of us have become emotionally invested in one another. We have all talked about the fact that we are approaching this as a long term thing, not just a few months of fun. I consider myself taken and am monogomous with the two of them and they know that. They are happy with that.
What do you think? Am I crazy?
A

[Howard]

Thats right. Have been trying it for 5 1/2 weeks now and it has been going great. I'm sure I must be crazy getting into this. Most of the people that I talk to tell me that no matter what I will end up hurt. It's a risk that I am willing to take though, just in case in doesn't turn out that way.
This is deffinatley not just some fling (even if it is a ton of fun ;) ). All of us have become emotionally invested in one another. We have all talked about the fact that we are approaching this as a long term thing, not just a few months of fun. I consider myself taken and am monogomous with the two of them and they know that. They are happy with that.
What do you think? Am I crazy?
A


No I don't feel it's crazy.It could be a little risky.Would you invite another girl into this menage a trois?

[sagg22]

Well, here are the dynamics of the menage a trois right now: There is him, her (the two of them have been together for a few years) and then there is me (I am a woman).
I don't know that I would really be interested in involving anyone else, male or female. Even if it was just a one time thing or anything at all. I think that if there were 4 then it would get very paired off, which could be uncomfortable. I like that with the 3 of us it is all of us involved, all interacting with one another. Another person would just make it feel like 2 couples.
Does that answer the question and make sense?
A

[Howard]

Well, here are the dynamics of the menage a trois right now: There is him, her (the two of them have been together for a few years) and then there is me (I am a woman).
I don't know that I would really be interested in involving anyone else, male or female. Even if it was just a one time thing or anything at all. I think that if there were 4 then it would get very paired off, which could be uncomfortable. I like that with the 3 of us it is all of us involved, all interacting with one another. Another person would just make it feel like 2 couples.
Does that answer the question and make sense?
A


Ok,It makes sense now Sag.Thank You. :)