Loobie lou
03-09-2010, 09:00 PM
Hey Guys,
New here and need some advice please; here goes my story...
I have been with my husband for almost 10 years and married almost 4, around 3 years ago, we decided we would like to try for a family, after many attempts/tests/hospital visits, we discovered I have PCOS, gradually this all took its toll on us and we started to drift apsrt. I then met another man at work, we started out simply as friends (he is also in a relationship with a youn child) this rapidly grew into something more serious and we fell in love, I genuinely believed this man was my soul mate and he said he flet the same, we saw each other regularly for around 6 months and things were great, then his girlfriend became suspicious and he started to be come less 'available' we had many converstions about how I felt our lives were on hold and had we reached decision time etc... then two months ago his girlfriend found some Xmas presents wich I had bought for him and he winged his way out of it but said I would now see even less of him, to which I made an off the cuff remark about what the point having an affair was if we couldn't see each other. He claims that statement made him realise we were trapped in a destructive circle and he couldn't confidently choose between me and his current life. He proposed that we stopped our affair in order for him to stabalise his life at home in order to give him clarity so that he could make decisions about his future. He also asked that we remained friends but said he did love me but wanted me to get on with my life... he did say (at my request) that he would come back and tell me his decision when he made it for good or bad for either of us... this was all 8 weeks ago now and I still adore this man, he says he still doesn't know anything other than how he feels about me and how good it is when we're together but I just don't know what to do, I never felt so torn, not to mention head f***ed...He says he hasn't chosen her and still 'ruminates' about us and in time will tell me. I have a million questions for him but I don't want to seem like a needy stalker... Please help me and be honest... x
New here and need some advice please; here goes my story...
I have been with my husband for almost 10 years and married almost 4, around 3 years ago, we decided we would like to try for a family, after many attempts/tests/hospital visits, we discovered I have PCOS, gradually this all took its toll on us and we started to drift apsrt. I then met another man at work, we started out simply as friends (he is also in a relationship with a youn child) this rapidly grew into something more serious and we fell in love, I genuinely believed this man was my soul mate and he said he flet the same, we saw each other regularly for around 6 months and things were great, then his girlfriend became suspicious and he started to be come less 'available' we had many converstions about how I felt our lives were on hold and had we reached decision time etc... then two months ago his girlfriend found some Xmas presents wich I had bought for him and he winged his way out of it but said I would now see even less of him, to which I made an off the cuff remark about what the point having an affair was if we couldn't see each other. He claims that statement made him realise we were trapped in a destructive circle and he couldn't confidently choose between me and his current life. He proposed that we stopped our affair in order for him to stabalise his life at home in order to give him clarity so that he could make decisions about his future. He also asked that we remained friends but said he did love me but wanted me to get on with my life... he did say (at my request) that he would come back and tell me his decision when he made it for good or bad for either of us... this was all 8 weeks ago now and I still adore this man, he says he still doesn't know anything other than how he feels about me and how good it is when we're together but I just don't know what to do, I never felt so torn, not to mention head f***ed...He says he hasn't chosen her and still 'ruminates' about us and in time will tell me. I have a million questions for him but I don't want to seem like a needy stalker... Please help me and be honest... x