He brings up your ex in an argument

[Chance]

Here's the deal, I think that comments that start with "I can see why your ex felt...." should never be said to someone you are now in a relationship with. Even if my significant other says or does something that makes me wonder if this was a problem in his previous relationship I would think it would be a pretty low-blow for me to say "no wonder your ex was ...." in the middle of a heated discussion.

Would appreciate your opinions on this, is this as much of a no-no as I think it is? :confused:

[smackie9]

Low blow is right....it is very petty to even use such a thing in any agrument. If this was such a great relationship and he loves you, why would he even want to be so hurtful towards you. It's abusive behaviour and if I were you I'd be very weary of this guy.

[Chance]

Thanks for your comments smackie. We discussed how I felt about this once things cooled off, he says he won't do it because it bothers me but still doesn't understand how his comments about my ex not wanting to put up with me is much different than other things we might say to each other in an argument.

[BethElaine]

How old is this guy? He's either very young and immature or he's older and has many issues. If the latter - he's emotionally abusive and clearly doesn't respect you or honor you. He is not balanced and is throwing you BIG red flags.

[Rich]

Yup, low blow. He was trying to hurt you with is words. We all do it sometimes and that's a trait that everyone needs to move away from doing.

He shouldn't do it.