Living together? Is that a good or bad thing?

[lakegoddess]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and I'm currently living with him (I'm 23). He was my first boyfriend (back in junior high) but we broke up because I moved across the country (from east coast to west coast). We've known each other for 8 years now.

Recently, I moved back to the east and am living with him (and his family). Don't get me wrong, his family and I get along so great and they're very flexible. :p

It's my friends and family that differ. What do you think? Is living together good? Bad? You spend more time together... but some people say then you'll start to take each other for granted... What's your say?

[bdtraders]

oh so true, thats were i feel i am in my relationship right now.

I do believe living together first is great cause you will really get to know the other person. Do what you feel is best and dont worry about what others say.

[eightball61]

I do believe living together first is great cause you will really get to know the other person. Do what you feel is best and dont worry about what others say.


^^ I agree to that^^

I have always been a believer that I would want to live with my partner first before we go any further. I want us to live together some so we know our habits and see if we can compromise around it and make it work. I don't beleive in entering something blindly. You've known him for a while now and you know the situation better than us and family. You do what you think is right. If it ends up being a mistake then learn from it and move on. Give it chance though and really see what you and him can work out. I wish you both luck ;)

[inquisitive]

It depends on you, your bf, and what both of you think. I've lived with my SO for just over 3.5yrs. Marriage is not important to me. To me it's just a piece of paper, because really there is no difference between living together and being married. Now others think differently. It's personal preference.

[Howard]

Well Lake,do you see a future with him?

As for me,I'm not financially secure right now to live on my own.I live with my parents and most likely,for the rest of my life. :(

[Diablo]

I think it's awfully nice of his parents to go along with you living there. I think your family and friends are doing what a lot of people do these days; they heard you were living with him and assumed the worst. It's your life, not theirs. I think it can be a wise idea to live together first and it's certainly helping all involved economically. Good luck with it and pay no mind to the nay sayers. If marriage was the holy whatchamacallit it's made out to be, the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.