how to explain

[cfbpunxsy]

My boyfriends friend, Josh, and I dont get along.
This is why:

I dont respect him. I bite my tongue around him all the time..but when he says something to upset me I stand up for myself.

Josh is rude to women... He asked one of the most innocent girls in his class to the prom thinking he could get a piece of ass... He pretended to like her, and after hanging out with her for a couple weeks he decided she wasnt going to put out. He stopped answering her calls and ignored her in school. A week and a half before the prom, he gives her a post it note saying he isn't going to the prom with her anymore. Now she has no time to find a date, everyone is already paired up...and he has ruined her senior prom. I think that is really low.
Josh also never has anything good to say...he is constantly calling girls, no matter who they are, b**** and sluts. He has no regard for their feelings.
He talks himself up all the time to sound better than he really is or trying to make himself sound cool in front of his friends.. I can see that hes fake.

I am not mean to him...I tolerate him unless he s his mouth off to me. My boyfriend cant understand why I dont like him, and everytime I try to explain he says that the way josh treats girls has nothing to do with me and its not my business. I dont want to be around him though...I dont want to associate with him.

How do I explain to Kris that I just dont like his ways and that its not just me making up excuses for him to spend more time with me and less time with josh?

[SALly]

Wow what a jerk. Does your boyfriend see this behavior, and think it is wrong?

[eightball61]

How do I explain to Kris that I just dont like his ways and that its not just me making up excuses for him to spend more time with me and less time with josh?



Basically, it all boils down to your boyfriend and what he wants. This is your second post about his friends and as we see he is easily persuaded by them. You gave his friends a chance and they ruined that by pursuading him break up with you to get a one-night-stand. You see that they are not a good influence on him and we see the same. He doesn't quite see that yet and he needs to realize that or he will lose out.

A respectful friend does not act the way that his do. The only way to pass your insecuritites about the relationship is if your boyfriend makes a choice to whats more important to him....If he runs the other direction then allow him to go because he'll prove then that he's not worth running after.

[CalistaClap]

His friend is a jerk. You can't tell him to stop hanging around with him, and have it work out with the two of you, but you can ask him to stand up for you.

If my friend was constantly harping on me about leaving my b/f for no reason, I would simply tell her to butt out and mind her own business.

He should already be doing this.......you shouldn't have to tell him........

[Howard]

I'd say CFB to just stop hanging out with him and just move on with your life.