I feel dead inside...

[TiredOfTheGames]

Just found out today that she is pregnant... I feel like I'm going to be sick. I told him that if he wanted me to, I would back off if he needed time to think... but his response to that confused me even more... he didnt give me a definate answer... i dont know what to do... i dont want to back away, but i dont want to cause any problems either... i feel as if God has just ripped my heart out once again and threw it to the ground, and is sitting there laughing... i feel dead inside... that basically sums it up all right there... I feel dead inside... thats all i feel right now... im not feeling pain (physical at least), there is no anger... just sadness, loneliness, emptyness, and wonder... wonder as to how i let myself fall for a guy so darn fast... heck im wondering how i let myself fall for a guy... i havent truely fallen for a guy, like i have for him, since 5 years ago when i fell for my ex who i dated for 3 years... it feels like God is taunting me... either that or punishing me... but i dont know what to do... i want to continue to talk to him, but i know if i do that, i will fall for him more and more, so i think that i'm just going to have to back away... most likely for good... thats going to be so hard... but i think it is the right thing to do... on that note im gone...

[eightball61]

God is not punishing you........ You have to realize that these thing happen in life. You did the right thing though in requesting that maybe space may be good for him. He is just as confused as you are right now. He may or is going to need the space to figure it all out. You can also use this time to figure out if this is something that you really want to get into. Its going to be a stressful time on you and him but if you both can work through it together then your know your relationship is true.

[SALly]

You could try to look at it like, "God only gives us what he knows we can handle"....... maybe somehow you will be able to help the situation in the long run. Add some stability to the life of a child... who knows.

[sagg22]

I can't imagine being in your exact position right now so I will not pretend to know what you are feeling. I have had my share of rough times though with relationships, and other messed up situations. So here is my simple advice.
First off, figure out what you want. Sit down with yourself and have a nice long conversation. What are you feeling? What are you willing to deal with? What do you want? Can you leave this situation and him and feel okay about that? Feel like that is something you won't regret?
If you don't want to lose him, you don't have to. I am not saying it will be easy or that it won't be painful. But I do think that if you really love or care about someone, then as cheesy as it sounds, you can get through anything.
Then, I would offer him space like you did. Don't force it, but offer it, be understanding, and use the space for yourself as well.
Hang in there, keep us posted. It will work out.

[TiredOfTheGames]

I can't imagine being in your exact position right now so I will not pretend to know what you are feeling. I have had my share of rough times though with relationships, and other messed up situations. So here is my simple advice.
First off, figure out what you want. Sit down with yourself and have a nice long conversation. What are you feeling? What are you willing to deal with? What do you want? Can you leave this situation and him and feel okay about that? Feel like that is something you won't regret?
If you don't want to lose him, you don't have to. I am not saying it will be easy or that it won't be painful. But I do think that if you really love or care about someone, then as cheesy as it sounds, you can get through anything.
Then, I would offer him space like you did. Don't force it, but offer it, be understanding, and use the space for yourself as well.
Hang in there, keep us posted. It will work out.

I have already done that, i dont want to lose him, I know somehow that if i let him go, i will most deifinately regret it... and no if i leave him, i wont feel ok with it... like i said i havent felt this way towards another guy since my ex that i dated 3 years... and i truely loved him, i still do love him today... just not the way lovers love each other... i love him as a friend, and i never want to see him hurt by another female as long as i can help it... and with this new guy, i really really care for him (i dont want to call it love cuz just saying i really really care for him hurts less if i have to step away from this whole situation) but in honesty, i do think i have fallen in love with him... he treated me just the way that i wanted to be treated... we both had such busy lives that we didnt get to talk often, but when we did, we made the convos special, and since we lived about an hour away from each other, we made the times that we spent together so very special... i even risked getting this really bad cold that he had to keep him company, and to try to help him feel better... and when we werent together, he would send me little messages on my phone to say that he missed me and that he thought that i was beautiful... it was exactly what i wanted... a relationship where instead of getting tired of seeing each other because we spent too much time together, but one where we absolutely looked forward to seeing each other... and now i feel like that its slipping away from me... and to answer what am i willing to deal with... for him, i am willing to deal with anything... i just wish he could see some of this, but it would do one of 2 things... scare him away, or help us to stay together... im just not sure if i want to take that risk...

[Howard]

I hope you feel better Tired.Be Well. :)

[Diablo]

He probably didn't give you a deffinite answer because he doesn't know what he should do. I know you don't want to lose him, but if she's not lying about being pregnant, the child becomes the most important thing. He should do what is in the best interest of the child; even if it means telling you goodbye. If your love for him is sincere, you will accept that. Just because you love someone doesn't mean it will work out. Hang in there and be strong.

[cindyJ]

I agree, a little space and a little time will help.