Meant to Post here! Trouble in Paradise, Please Help!!

[trbleinparadise]

've recently started dating my highschool sweetheart again (Stella) after 4yrs of college. Things are great but I still get anxious and nervous around her and (embarassing as it is) affects our life. Sometimes I can't even get it up in bed because I'm so nervous and my head is racing. She's very beautiful and I worry I like her too much. The and overall anxious vibe is getting to her and I'm worried it will ruin the relationship. I would never tell her this but she's someone I could picture marrying. Needless to say, I don't want to lose her. All my friends tell me to cut things off for awhile but I'm not sure if it will help. I had another girlfriend ( and a few random lays) for 3 years in college ( and was VERY happy and wasn't thinking about Stella) so it's not like I can't live without her... I'm a VERY confident person in real life but when I'm around her, espically in bed with her, my confidence is shattered. I've known her since I was 7 and there's no reason I should be like this, she's the only person that I act like this around too. Help? We've talked about before but didnt get anywhere looking for outside help

[smackie9]

Did anything happen when you were kids, that may have put question about your manhood in some way? Like did she ever make a comment to you?

[Girl]

Maybe you should express your anxiety to her if you haven't.

[packagedealx3]

Sounds like maybe seeing a counselor would be helpful because there is no reason you are feeling this way with the exception of wanting potentially to marry her. Perhaps you worry that you aren't man enough for her thinking about supporting financially, fathering children, etc. Otherwise there has to be something in your history that makes you worry in some way, because of your investment in things working out positively. Kind of like a first meet that you don't really care about one way or the other versus someone that you really connected with and would like to have a relationship. In the former, you generally aren't nervous and ironically more yourself and more likable, in the latter, you are nervous, don't act yourself and less likable.