Boyfriend stealer!!!

[Princessstephie]

What to do now. I split up with my bf last night, my decision, not his, and im happy about that decision. I finished it because there was something missing and i just wasnt happy. Also i had my eye on someone else. I didnt think it was fair to stay in a relationship when i actually didnt want to be there. I have been texting this other boy and am going to get to know him better. We have planned a night out for 2morrow, with a group of mates, and i am hoping that we will get chance to talk properly. The only problem is that one of my mates that is coming with us is well known for being a bit too forward with guys and she always manages to persuade them to ditch the girl they are with and go with her even though she is in a relationship herself. I know i am not with this guy but the two of them have history and im worried that she will ruin any chance i may have. Any advice on how to stop this from happening. I know that if he wants it to happen then there is nothing i cn do to stop it but to be honest i dont trust her! :(

[eightball61]

You are worring about something that may not even happen. You just got over a relationship and your next motive are to relax some before you get in the next relationship. Go tomorrow still and see what happens. If you get the vibe that she is doing a lot of flirting with him and going beyond that boundry then ask her to go the bathroom with you and just mention to her your interest in him. He is fair game though and where his heart goes will be his decision. You can't stop this from happening. The only thing you can do is just mention your interest and see what works out from there. You don't want to hold back from your flirts either. The more you stall the less chance you have with him. So tomorrow go to this gathering like you planned and flirt like you planned.

[Rich]

You can't stop anyone from doing anything that they might want to do.

All that YOU can do is to fight fire with fire. Make yourself more attractive and fun to be with than this other girl. Make the guy want to be with you instead of her. You can't control her but you can control what you do.

You need to develop more self confidence and more of a winning attitude. If you go into this thinking that this girl will beat you to the guy that you both want, then you've already lost.

Go in thinking that you want this guy and WILL get him. Think positive. Right now you're thinking negative.

[Princessstephie]

Thanks guys! I am going to see how things go and ill keep you posted. I have an idea that he is more interested in me than her so im going to act as if this is the case and that way i should come across as a more positive person. :p

[eightball61]

i should come across as a more positive person. :p

Just keep that positive vibe and be yourself. Its ok to dress in compitition but don't change who you are as a person...... Let us know how the night goes :)

[Rich]

A quick question for you. Why not be a positive person all the time??????

Guys are turned off by negative women on a downer. Why be that way?

Princess...it sounds like you need to build up your self confidence level somewhat. You need to think more of yourself, than you do.

Rich

[cindyJ]

Ah dont worry about your friends, try and be yourself and other will notice that.