Getting Her Back

[CRI2009]

Hello,
I'll try to keep this brief without leaving out any important details.

I broke up with my (ex)girlfriend some time ago. However, she clung on to me after the break-up, and I still valued my relationship with her a lot, so I let her. Basically, we would still sleep together, eat together, etc. But during that time I would remind her we were single and draw lines sometimes (i.e. asking me to go somewhere with her I didn't want to go). This went on for a few months. At some point, she just started acting different around me: I no longer sensed the love. Very quickly after that, we stopped hanging out, and she found another boyfriend. I spent some time recovering, and now I want to know how to get her back. I don't think "no contact" will work because she spent those last few months getting over me, but she is with someone else now. But if I do try to keep in touch, how much (or how little)?

Thanks for any help

[eightball61]

If she wanted you then she wouldnt be with someone else. You broke up with her, strung her along, and now she came to her senses. She has moved onto a better life for herself and all you can do is learn from the choices you made.

[smackie9]

Ya dude you can't do something like that and expect her to go back to you. That's not how it works. She's moved on for good and so should you. I hope there's a lesson learned here.

[veronaqueen]

Ask yourself these questions, honestly:
why did you break up with her in the first place?
If you get back together, are you going to dump her again?
Is she better off with this other guy than you?
Do you just want her now that someone else has her?

If you think that over and think you really want to get her back, the only thing you can do is tell her how you feel. Whatever you do, DON'T worm your way in between her and the new boyfriend or sabotage them in any way, because it'll just come back to bite you in the butt. If she decides after hearing this that she wants to be with you too, then things will work out. If not, then it wasn't meant to be.

[mariegnc]

I think you should let her be....she managed to get over you and move on.