the birthday i'm not invited to

[cfbpunxsy]

All week my bf has been talking about the party he is having this weekend since its his birthday. He's going to be 18...he's already started his "18 do what I want" attitude.

Anyway, he asked his parents if he could have a bunch of people stay out at his camp on Saturday and they agreed to let him.

Yesterday, his friend's girlfriend came up to me and said, "So what are you doing Saturday since Kris is having that party?" and I looked at her like ...well, I'm gonna be at the party. She then went on to tell me that Kris told Matt I wasnt going to be there...that it was just a party for his friends...

Kris never told me that I was going to be excluded from the party...my own boyfriend's birthday party...So i confronted him... He said "no, u cant go...you dont get along with half the people there so why do you want to go anyway? its not a big deal...its just a bunch of us staying at my camp."

Do I have right to be upset? am i overreacting?

I dont know what to think... I mean he has openly talked about the party all week to me...everytime one of his friends comes around he says "dude party at my camp sat nite." so its not like he was hiding it from me.

I confronted him about how I feel...

[SALly]

You definitely have the right to be upset. I got pissed just reading about it. That's not right. It's bullshit.

[eightball61]

He's just really immature..... I thought he was a lot older than 18 :eek:

This is your relationship in a summary :

When you both are together you are boyfriend and girlfriend. When he is alone with his friends then you are just somebody that he calls a girlfriend....



It clearly shows he has no respect for you. A man has respect for thier women. A boy(thats him) has no respect for thier women.If he actually had respect ten you would see a lot more of it. He is your boyfriend and he can't invite you to his own birthday bash. I could understand if he just wanted it to be a guy thing but from the sound of it other girls will be there.

Continueing the relationship would be your decision. You do have the right to be very upset with him and he should see why. He has very little respect for you and you really don't need that. You will smarten up eventually and realize that this guy is not worth the hassle nor your time. If I was you I would just let him go so he doesn't have to pretend anymore he doesn't have a girlfriend to his friends. It will hurt to let him go but it will hurt less doing that rather than staying and him hurting you more.

[Rich]

You can go ahead and be upset by it but you should recognize this relationship for what it is. Which isn't one that's going to turn into marriage or anything long lasting.

You don't get along with his friends (for whatever reasons) and he's choosing his friends over you. He always will, actually.

There's a definate lack of respect and consideration towards you from him.

IMO, since this relationship isn't going anywhere, you have two choices. The first is to accept the way that he treats you and know that this isn't going anywhere long term. Or you can break up and go find a guy that treats you better and whose friends you can get along with.

Typically people migrate towards people that they're like minded with. Our friends sort of reflect who were are, to an extent. It's my belief that since you don't get along with his friends, that there's probably alot in your BF that you don't agree with as well, but you accept because he's your BF.

Time to move on.

Rich

[Diablo]

If you don't get along with a lot of his friends, I can see why he would not invite you, but he should have been upfront about it and he shouldn't have talked about it constantly. The fact that he talked about the party all week without saying you weren't invited says all that you need to know.

[2BDMD]

If he wants a party with just the boys, then I see nothing wrong with that! It's at a camp, usually camps are for boys anyways! Listen, if other girls will be there and you're not invited, then I would be pissed. Since it's a boys night out, the let it be. Perhaps he will celebrate his birthday with you over a nice dinner just the two of you. For the party, let the boys be boys!

[luvme4ever]

you're his girlfriend and bestfriend, he should put you first before everyone else. No matter if his friends doesn't like u. If he put his friend b4 you.. deep down inside, you should know what to do.

[Howard]

you're his girlfriend and bestfriend, he should put you first before everyone else. No matter if his friends doesn't like u. If he put his friend b4 you.. deep down inside, you should know what to do.


I agree what you said.100% girlfriends come before friends no matter what. :)