Thisguy
04-17-2010, 07:16 PM
I just got out of a relationship which was, for the most part, a complete failure. It has been little more than a week, but I'm afraid that the way I am feeling right now will last for a lot longer if I don't get some advice on how to get rid of it.
Here's the problem. I feel hurt because it feels like I was only a game to this person I was with. She tried so hard to get me to start something more than a friendship with her and when she finally got what she was looking for, it seems she was through. She had originally clung to me, showed me that she cared about me, and tried to talk to me, spend time with me, etc...then, very suddenly (within two days) she went from all that to where she stopped really talking to me as much, trying to spend time with me when we actually got opportunities to do so, and she started saying strange things (things which kind of hinted that I was a 3rd class friend whom she would treat as such).
Things just got worse and worse until the were horrible, eventually she stopped trying to talk to me at all, she tried hard to stop spending time with me, she began treating me poorly, and talking badly about me to others and all together denying it. To top it all off she wouldn't ever talk to me when I asked her about problems (although sometimes I did overreact). The biggest response I ever got from her was, "I'm just tired of you being insecure."
I wouldn't let it go. I think another reason why I am angry is because I was too blind to see when it needed to be over.
This was my first real attempt at a relationship, so I guess getting over everything is a little more difficult.
I'm not angry at her when I see her or anything, I treat her just as any friend, I'm just angry about how things went and how I was treated.
Here's the problem. I feel hurt because it feels like I was only a game to this person I was with. She tried so hard to get me to start something more than a friendship with her and when she finally got what she was looking for, it seems she was through. She had originally clung to me, showed me that she cared about me, and tried to talk to me, spend time with me, etc...then, very suddenly (within two days) she went from all that to where she stopped really talking to me as much, trying to spend time with me when we actually got opportunities to do so, and she started saying strange things (things which kind of hinted that I was a 3rd class friend whom she would treat as such).
Things just got worse and worse until the were horrible, eventually she stopped trying to talk to me at all, she tried hard to stop spending time with me, she began treating me poorly, and talking badly about me to others and all together denying it. To top it all off she wouldn't ever talk to me when I asked her about problems (although sometimes I did overreact). The biggest response I ever got from her was, "I'm just tired of you being insecure."
I wouldn't let it go. I think another reason why I am angry is because I was too blind to see when it needed to be over.
This was my first real attempt at a relationship, so I guess getting over everything is a little more difficult.
I'm not angry at her when I see her or anything, I treat her just as any friend, I'm just angry about how things went and how I was treated.