Intimacy issues

[MissCazz3]

So I have been with my BF for about 20 months. When we first me we we very intimate and I realize there is that honeymoon stage but it has gotten to the point where we are intimate only once a month. I am a very ual person, we are both young and I don't understand. He says he is too tired which I understadn when he works a lot but he is not the only one and he is choosing to work twice as much as he really needs to. Whenever I et frisky he says "mmmm lets cuddle". I try to tell him that it makes me feel like unattractive crap but he thinks I am being crazy:confused:. IDK what to do anymore. :(:(:(

[BorealSoul]

Hi Miss C,

differences is drive between partners is a very frustrating situation. Having 1/month would drive me round the bend.

Usually a decline in ual desire is a clear sign of something wrong elsewhere in the relationship.

Talk to him. Ask him straight up whats wrong.

Are you two fighting or getting stressed from some issue?

IMO its not normal (I use that term loosely) for a man to be happy with once a month.

[Rich]

Talk to him and find out the root cause for his lack of desire. Have him be honest wit his feelings. Maybe he's bored with your life and the same routine. Maybe he's tired and drive is waning.

Find out the reasons and then make a decision on what is acceptable to you and your happiness. If there's no match, then move on. No harm, no foul. Life and relationships are about learning and growing. Your not destined to marry everyone that you date.

If you want more that cannot be gained from this relationship, then it's time to move on. No hurt. No anger. You have just outgrown the relationship. It happens. Move on.