SunFlowerSeeds
04-27-2010, 11:20 PM
I have a best friends of 9 years now. In high school I asked him out but he told me that he's not into asian girls. Since then we been best buds. We even went to junior prom and senior prom together. We stayed in touch during college even though we were 300 miles apart. We spent every summer together. He always come to me when he have females questions and i always give him honest answers. He went through a lot of girlfriends in college but none of them last. Time flew by...... and one day during our college senior year we went to a ball game and out of the blue he said something like"you know we know each other for quite some time and i think you're the best girl in my life. I think we should officially date" I didn't know how to react so i just pretended like i didn't hear him so I quickly changed the subject like 'oh, i can't believe he didn't catch the ball...." Since then he never ask me out ever again.
After college neither one of us have time to hang out. I ran into him again almost 2 years later at a wedding. I introduced him to my boyfriend at that time. Ever since then that day he been calling me to see that how I'm doing. I thought it was sweet at first. But when I changed my facebook status from "in a relationship" to "engaged", my best friend been acting all weird. Constantly calling and facebooking me (more than usual). He even start asking if I'm sure about this guy. He complained about how much I changed ever since I started dating this guy. He was upset to learn that I gave my virginity to my fiance (we been very open about our life.... well at least he was cuz I didn't have any prior to being engaged...lol). That was when I think he crossed the line and being disrespect. It wasn't like I gave it up after a month or two. It was years after I dated my fiance.
Anyways, do you think my best is acting all weird or is he just looking out for my well being. I asked all my closest friends I been getting mix answers from them.
Some of my friends said that he regrets letting me slip away. I have some friends who really like my fiance and some who rather see me with my best friends. I'm not leaving my fiance. Just need some inputs on how to handle my best friend. Should I stay friends with him or cut him loose. I love my best friend (as a friend of course) and want to stay friends with him, but I don't think I want to deal with his BS. I need some outside input.
After college neither one of us have time to hang out. I ran into him again almost 2 years later at a wedding. I introduced him to my boyfriend at that time. Ever since then that day he been calling me to see that how I'm doing. I thought it was sweet at first. But when I changed my facebook status from "in a relationship" to "engaged", my best friend been acting all weird. Constantly calling and facebooking me (more than usual). He even start asking if I'm sure about this guy. He complained about how much I changed ever since I started dating this guy. He was upset to learn that I gave my virginity to my fiance (we been very open about our life.... well at least he was cuz I didn't have any prior to being engaged...lol). That was when I think he crossed the line and being disrespect. It wasn't like I gave it up after a month or two. It was years after I dated my fiance.
Anyways, do you think my best is acting all weird or is he just looking out for my well being. I asked all my closest friends I been getting mix answers from them.
Some of my friends said that he regrets letting me slip away. I have some friends who really like my fiance and some who rather see me with my best friends. I'm not leaving my fiance. Just need some inputs on how to handle my best friend. Should I stay friends with him or cut him loose. I love my best friend (as a friend of course) and want to stay friends with him, but I don't think I want to deal with his BS. I need some outside input.