WorkingLunch
04-29-2010, 08:29 PM
I don't know how to put this but I've been with my wife for about 10 years and I'm getting really bothered about her arguments over little things, she would scream at me about the place not being as she would like it, things not going her way (like running out of money etc) .. we're both in our mid to late 30s.. we've three young children and even if they are in the room she still screams.
We live in a street where neighbors all hear the yelling and its really embarrassing showing my face in public, knowing that our dirty laundry has been washed within earshot of everyone. She really doesn't hold back on the skank type of language and will even go as far as to say stuff like she's had affairs and I need to get a DNA test done on one of our kids only afterwards admitting she was winding me up, I sort of lost the plot when she told me this and lashed out at her, she got bruised on the side of her face, I'm going to get anger management counselling so I know I was wrong there but she really hurt me when she said that.
I actually think she's suffering from depression but I'm don't know how to get her around to seeing someone about it.. its getting to the stage where we are close to breaking point.
It started to go bad about 4 years ago when my wife admitted stealing money from her employer, things were going fine until one day the police showed up at our door and brought her in. I didn't suspect anything as she basically covered up things by saying it was her earnings and bonuses - oh yeah and she never had a problem telling me how much of a loser I was on such low salary.
So she could get a custodial sentence in about 6 months ! Its really unreal being in such a sh*tty relationship and having to watch my kids get scared everyday I think sometimes its best if I leave so at least they can have some happiness but then I'll be as good as homeless as we bought our house at the top of the boom and I don't earn enough to pay a mortgage and rent, but also if I am gone when she is sentenced and if she does time, it's going to be hard to manage job/two properties/kids/car/dogs on my own.
I really need some help here.
We live in a street where neighbors all hear the yelling and its really embarrassing showing my face in public, knowing that our dirty laundry has been washed within earshot of everyone. She really doesn't hold back on the skank type of language and will even go as far as to say stuff like she's had affairs and I need to get a DNA test done on one of our kids only afterwards admitting she was winding me up, I sort of lost the plot when she told me this and lashed out at her, she got bruised on the side of her face, I'm going to get anger management counselling so I know I was wrong there but she really hurt me when she said that.
I actually think she's suffering from depression but I'm don't know how to get her around to seeing someone about it.. its getting to the stage where we are close to breaking point.
It started to go bad about 4 years ago when my wife admitted stealing money from her employer, things were going fine until one day the police showed up at our door and brought her in. I didn't suspect anything as she basically covered up things by saying it was her earnings and bonuses - oh yeah and she never had a problem telling me how much of a loser I was on such low salary.
So she could get a custodial sentence in about 6 months ! Its really unreal being in such a sh*tty relationship and having to watch my kids get scared everyday I think sometimes its best if I leave so at least they can have some happiness but then I'll be as good as homeless as we bought our house at the top of the boom and I don't earn enough to pay a mortgage and rent, but also if I am gone when she is sentenced and if she does time, it's going to be hard to manage job/two properties/kids/car/dogs on my own.
I really need some help here.