Gf doing modeling

[RyanL]

Question.

So I have been dating my lovely GF for about 5 months now. She is a very attractive model and has been modeling since about a year before we were together. She started doing some implied and modeling about a month or 2 before we got together. It is all very professional artistic stuff. Well for about the past 2 months she has been taking some more proactive pictures as a portfolio for playboy. She was asked by her main photographer if she was interested it would be a great opportunity and they had shown some interest.

At first it really didnt bother me much but recently the modeling has really started to bother me and its not really something I can accept anymore. We live together and we are pretty serious, she is the most amazing girl I have ever met. The more serious our relationship gets the more I dislike it though. It is not something I morally believe to be right, its definitely not something I would look for in a significant other and I would never want my gf, wife, daughter, sister or mother doing. Most of my friends know about it and I get s--- from them about it all the time.

My main concern about it is that I would not want later down the road to have children with her and them to find out or see them, or there friends or friends parents to find out or see them. The s--- they would have to put up with for all of their school age days would be ridiculous.

Would it be wrong of me to basically explain to her that it is really bothering me and not something I am a fan of anymore and in the end I wouldn't be able to get serious with her if this continues? What would be the best way about bringing this up. She has already told me it bothers her and she isn't a huge fan of it but the money is pretty good. I had told her before it really didn't bother me all that much and she has stated multiple times that if I didnt like the idea of or her doing playboy she wouldn't.

[smackie9]

These days posing is really no big deal. Now if it was , that I would be concerned with. Posing for Playboy can be a positive thing for her.....it can launch a career in acting or modeling $$$ I feel you are worried that this will happen and she will leave you in the dust.

[lvl3]

It's not dude, it's modeling. So what if her kids see it in the future? Do you live with the values that the human body is a shameful thing? The fact of the matter is you're dating a model, someone who's lucky enough to look damn good without cloths on, something the other 99.9 percent of us can't always claim. If the modeling bothers you then I suggest you either break up with her or find a way to become ok with it asap, because as long as you resent her for it the more anger will build up in you and one day you'll explode and lose her and make her feel like shit about her perfect body. You knew what you were getting yourself into.

When I was 19 I dated a stripper for a month. I knew she was a stripper, and I can't even begin to describe the wild nights me and her had, but after a few weeks it started to get to me that her job was getting other guys off, and that I was just one of 1000s of guys who could picture her , and that she made her money by grinding on a@@holes in the back room of a sleezy strip club. I had to make a choice, deal with it or break up with her, and I chose break up with her. That was 4 years ago and to this day that girl is one of my best friends. I know if I would have stayed with her, even for another month, I would have burst, we would have gotten in a huge fight, and I would have never talked to her again. You need to find out if this is going to break you or not. If it will, break up with her asap, she's just not the right girl for you, you can try asking her to quit her job for you, but unless you can support her that's a d**k move. If you can live with it though, then you need to find a way to do it quick... and my advice for that is to embrase the fact that you're dating a model... don't FEAR that your friends will see her , straight up bring over an issue of playboy magazine and be like "I'm tottaly hitting that!!!"

Just think of her nudity as a super y outfit she puts on to show the world, and remember that while other people get to think about having with her, you're the only one in the world who actually does get to. That's what makes it special. Try to focus on those kinds of things.

[eightball61]

I can understand why it would be bothersome. You have the right to express how you feel but not the right to demand as this is something she has been doing(gradually got worse though). On the flip side you could be proud to the fact that all the med beating off to her will only get that far as you get to nail her. Feel proud of that;p