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johnlocke
05-08-2010, 09:36 PM
Hey,

I've been having problems with my girlfriend for quite some time. I personally think she has postnatal depression but she won't accept it. We forever fall out over things in general and it builds up which ultimately leads to a full blown armageddon. All she does is looks after our 6 month old baby and she finds it impossible, forever crying for help or leaving the baby with her parents because she 'needs help'. She then complains that I do "F**k all" with the baby, given the fact that she does more than I do, I still do everything she does. The difference is, she does more with the baby, I get up for work at 6am and I don't get to sit down or eat until night time. I drive her everywhere she wants to go, I do all the errands like picking bits of shopping up etc. Whenever I come home, every dish, cutlery, pans and cup we have are piled high in the sink and tells me it's my turn to do the dishes. We had a fall out a few hours ago and I'm now in my car using my netbook on an unencrypted wifi. She is also using the baby against me now too, saying stuff like "he doesn't want you" or "we don't need you, get the f**k out". I keep trying to make things better but all she seems to want to do is fall out and cause chaos. I just want a happy home and a loving partner. What should I do?

Thanks!

hohum1
05-12-2010, 06:13 PM
If your girlfriend does have Post Natal Depression, I recommend that you, instead of making life harder for her, you try to care for her however she needs it. Do the dishes. Take care of the baby for a few hours. Fair enough you work that amount of time, but she works all day and night.

I don't think you or anyone else could cope looking after a baby on their own, especially as shes so young, and has never done this before in her life.

She knows you drive her around and shes started to do her shopping online so you don't have to drive her about. And she does ask nicely. And, she does love you.

-Becky

P.S I love you, and I'm sorry x

eightball61
05-12-2010, 09:47 PM
Could be depression and stress however she needs to talk with her doctor. As for now though these hurtful thing are not helping as you see. She may just need a lift from it all. Suggest she go out with friends while you stay home with your baby one night. Being home all day with stress is putting a damper. She needs to get out and find a way to smile again.