Weird looks

[Hillbilygurl2]

Alright... here's my problem. My husband and I work for the same business. We do just fine with that, however there is this one female co-worker.. that is causing me some confusion. I have caught this co worker and husband giving each other strange looks.. almost lingering. Husband doesn't do that with anyone else. just find it strange and feel as though I can't question husband as it sounds like I'm just a jealous wife. Am I just being paranoid or is there cause for concern? what do I do?

[eightball61]

Can you explain further to what type of looks they are giving each other?

[Howard]

Hillbillygirl,do you feel jealous in a way? :confused:

[Rich]

Physical attraction between people happens. No rhyme or reason, it just does. Sometimes like minded people just click.

Trust your gut and keep an eye open. Where there's smoke there's fire.

Not saying that he's cheating on you, but the flirtation in front of you is no good.

Keep watching.

[luvme4ever]

Well, that's kinda sux to caught your lover doing that. You can't help but feel jealous, and I kinda notice in your writing that you said you don't want him to know u're jealous. Why is that? I think if someone feel jealous, it' good because it shows that that person truely care for the other and afraid to loose the other. As for your feeling of your husband is giving the other lady the wierd look, you should trust your own feelings. like Rich said, keep eyes open. If he didn't do anything wrong, you wouldn't be this worry. Since you're worried, there must be something.

[Howard]

What are you gonna do Hillbillygirl in the meantime? :confused:

[Hillbilygurl2]

The looks are.. so I think... lingering longer than just a glance.. eye to eye. Yes in the past there have been a few incidents that cause this underlying jealousy, but that's a totally different story. lol I'm not going to be able to keep a watch out because I'll no longer work there as of next week.. took another job else where. Don't know what to do.. if I tell my husband my concern.. he'll either.. make me feel as I'm imagining things.. or get on defensive and make me feel like I'm just looking for a fight. just not sure how to handle this. Thanks for all the comments.

[eightball61]

just not sure how to handle this.



You found a way to handle this......you took another jpb. To me, this may have been the best thing to do because you are allowing a personal issue into a work stting..

You also mentioned that there were things in the past that caused jealousy :confused: Can you please share with us?

[Diablo]

People look and it doesn't matter if they're married or not. If you're fairly sure that that's all they're doing, then don't make an issue of this.

[Howard]

Then if it's not a big deal you shouldn't have to worry about it.

[Hillbilygurl2]

This normally wouldn't bother me but.. I've also noticed that when I'm around they try to avoid me seeing them talking. The other day.. they were outside and I was watching out the window and they were talking.. but when I went outside.. my husband walked away from her and didn't speak to her again when I was out there. This isn't the first time I noticed this.. is that strange? or am I just paranoid?

[eightball61]

I thought you took another job?


It is strange but the only way you are going to properly handle this is bringing up you findings to him and how you feel about this. If you bring it up to him it will show that you are on to him and hopefully he will stop whatever he has in mind.

[Howard]

you could spy on him pretendingly by putting together a surveillance camera so he won't know a thing.

[Rich]

Trust your intuition. There's something going on there. Not saying that it's ual (yet), but something is on the burner.

Ask your SO about what is going on. Tell him that you see them talking but when you walk over, they separate or he acts like they're not talking. Ask him what's up and watch his eye contact and body language with you.

See if he looks you in the eye when he talks to you. Lack of eye contact says alot.

Those two are attracted to each other and are flirting. They can't flirt when you're there.

[2BDMD]

Talk to him about it. If you fight, then you fight. At least your husband knows that you're onto him. It's always better to duke it out than holding it in. Confront him immediately. Those glances sounds fishy to me as well! I've done them many times in the past with many women and it usually means "I wouldn't mind doing you!"

Talk to him!