Thelonely1
05-14-2010, 08:18 PM
My ex-girlfriend have been together for nearly three years before she left me.
Two years in to our relationship we got a huge problem when I discovered the game she had with guys. (talking with guys also far distant away mostly about but also about love and care).
When I first got to know about it and confronted her in real, she was devastated and told me she would stop it.
Later I heard from one new guy she was talking with (after the point where she said she would stop it) about their conversations.
By then I know she was still doing it, and once again when conftonted she told me she couldn't stop it and that she couldn't control herself,
so I allowed her to do what she wanted if she was just talking to me about it and not having any secrets.
The thing is, she just left me anyway, and she want to start a new relationship with another guy living even more far away from me.
We had just about half a year left of waiting until we finally could settle for a life we dreamed about during the whole relationship.
She met a new guy about 3 months ago, and this guy is already living with his girlfriend for many years.
She was talking to me about this guy at the start, so I know about their talks, and I know she probably got his attention to her when talking about having some rough with her.
He was also complaining that he wasn't happy with his girlfriend, and that she was out late at nights probably cheating on him.
They have no reason which I know for beeing together because they are not married and she have a low income and he have a high income so it's not economical related either I think.
As this went on, she stopped more and more talking to me, until recently when she said she stopped loving me, and that she love him.
She told me she wanted to leave this life where she play around with guys, as it is no future for her.
Here is where I am now.
I know that this guy lives far up north, and he was grown up there and also educated and now works, he never moved to another town.
She doesn't want to live this north, but they were already talking about that he would leave his girlfriend and change job so they could start a new life together somewhere else.
His girlfriend still doesn't know anything yet as far as I know.
I have some great concern for them though:
I fear that she will not be able to stop her pattern with her games with the guys, and she will cheat on him as she did on me (and he will probably not allow it as I did)
At an early point in their flirt when she was still talking to me, she told me that, that he would probably not allow it. (but then later when she broke up she told me she would leave that life.)
I also fear that this guy might not be serious with her, since that he didn't tell his girlfriend yet, and obviously not broke up with her.
Even if he is willing to leave his girlfriend, it will be a big change in his life to search a new location more south to live (but probably still in the same country)
but changing work and location seems a bit weird.
Two years in to our relationship we got a huge problem when I discovered the game she had with guys. (talking with guys also far distant away mostly about but also about love and care).
When I first got to know about it and confronted her in real, she was devastated and told me she would stop it.
Later I heard from one new guy she was talking with (after the point where she said she would stop it) about their conversations.
By then I know she was still doing it, and once again when conftonted she told me she couldn't stop it and that she couldn't control herself,
so I allowed her to do what she wanted if she was just talking to me about it and not having any secrets.
The thing is, she just left me anyway, and she want to start a new relationship with another guy living even more far away from me.
We had just about half a year left of waiting until we finally could settle for a life we dreamed about during the whole relationship.
She met a new guy about 3 months ago, and this guy is already living with his girlfriend for many years.
She was talking to me about this guy at the start, so I know about their talks, and I know she probably got his attention to her when talking about having some rough with her.
He was also complaining that he wasn't happy with his girlfriend, and that she was out late at nights probably cheating on him.
They have no reason which I know for beeing together because they are not married and she have a low income and he have a high income so it's not economical related either I think.
As this went on, she stopped more and more talking to me, until recently when she said she stopped loving me, and that she love him.
She told me she wanted to leave this life where she play around with guys, as it is no future for her.
Here is where I am now.
I know that this guy lives far up north, and he was grown up there and also educated and now works, he never moved to another town.
She doesn't want to live this north, but they were already talking about that he would leave his girlfriend and change job so they could start a new life together somewhere else.
His girlfriend still doesn't know anything yet as far as I know.
I have some great concern for them though:
I fear that she will not be able to stop her pattern with her games with the guys, and she will cheat on him as she did on me (and he will probably not allow it as I did)
At an early point in their flirt when she was still talking to me, she told me that, that he would probably not allow it. (but then later when she broke up she told me she would leave that life.)
I also fear that this guy might not be serious with her, since that he didn't tell his girlfriend yet, and obviously not broke up with her.
Even if he is willing to leave his girlfriend, it will be a big change in his life to search a new location more south to live (but probably still in the same country)
but changing work and location seems a bit weird.