Did this woman develop a crush?

[Older now]

Ok. I work in a profession that I have to transport air crews to and from the airport to the motel which they are staying. Now I am a 40 year old man who is happily married. I have always appreciated beauty especially in women. I have always been loyal. Yet, I can still be flirty because it has always been my nature. One of the young women on these crews jammed a door on our shuttle van. I teased her about it. That led to us joking alot with each other. I got to know her a little but not away from the job as I am happily married. I noticed one day she was observing me talking to a female coworker thinking I did not see her. She was watching through a glass door quite a ways behind us. Here is what is strange. When I see her in the motel she won't look at me she keeps her head down when she talks and she seems uncomfortable and I noticed she was blushing. Now outside when it is dark she looks at me when she speaks to me. Is this a sign of a crush? I have never experienced this before despite my age and this woman is 25 and single but getting engaged.

[stjaba]

Ok. I work in a profession that I have to transport air crews to and from the airport to the motel which they are staying. Now I am a 40 year old man who is happily married. I have always appreciated beauty especially in women. I have always been loyal. Yet, I can still be flirty because it has always been my nature. One of the young women on these crews jammed a door on our shuttle van. I teased her about it. That led to us joking alot with each other. I got to know her a little but not away from the job as I am happily married. I noticed one day she was observing me talking to a female coworker thinking I did not see her. She was watching through a glass door quite a ways behind us. Here is what is strange. When I see her in the motel she won't look at me she keeps her head down when she talks and she seems uncomfortable and I noticed she was blushing. Now outside when it is dark she looks at me when she speaks to me. Is this a sign of a crush? I have never experienced this before despite my age and this woman is 25 and single but getting engaged.

*shrugs*

It COULD be a sign of a crush, or it could NOT be. There are so many possibilities, including that she is somehow uncomfortable because SHE thinks YOU have a crush on HER. There is really no way to tell without asking her.

Either way, she's getting engaged, and you're happily married, so my advice is to just keep being the friendly guy that you are, but perhaps consciously stay away from flirting with her, to avoid getting into a complicated situation.

Just my 2 cents though...

~stjaba

[smackie9]

Why does it really matter if she does or not. You say you are happily married, so what is to be gained from knowing that she does?

[Older now]

Why does it really matter if she does or not. You say you are happily married, so what is to be gained from knowing that she does?

You are correct.

[Howard]

You can talk to her,maybe she likes talking to you.

[BorealSoul]

Why does it really matter if she does or not. You say you are happily married, so what is to be gained from knowing that she does?

I will echo Smackie here, why does this matter? I am thinking you are getting closer to a line that should not be crossed if you entertain this line of thinking.

And if she does have a crush on you, so what? Your ego gets a stroke and life goes on.

[melgado18]

maybe she thinks you have a crush on her so she gets nervous cause she doesnt want you to get the wrong idea

[packagedealx3]

Maybe she did have a crush but now recognizes that you talk to women in general and now sees you as a safe person to talk to? If you're happily married, it's not an issue for you, it could be for her and her fiance but that's not your problem. If your concern is that you don't want to have inadvertently led someone on, you should start paying more attention to people's body language and the inflection of their voice. Most people engage in some type of behavior that could be considered flirting if they are a people person.

Should be fairly easy to recognize when for someone else, that friendly personality has been interpreted the wrong way. I think your post does suggest that you might have more interest in this whole topic than someone who is happily married, that whole protesting too much comes to mind. If you are in some way needing to remind yourself that you are happily married, stay away from the woman.

[Older now]

Maybe she did have a crush but now recognizes that you talk to women in general and now sees you as a safe person to talk to? If you're happily married, it's not an issue for you, it could be for her and her fiance but that's not your problem. If your concern is that you don't want to have inadvertently led someone on, you should start paying more attention to people's body language and the inflection of their voice. Most people engage in some type of behavior that could be considered flirting if they are a people person.

Should be fairly easy to recognize when for someone else, that friendly personality has been interpreted the wrong way. I think your post does suggest that you might have more interest in this whole topic than someone who is happily married, that whole protesting too much comes to mind. If you are in some way needing to remind yourself that you are happily married, stay away from the woman.


I think maybe I enjoyed the fact that this woman has found me attractive despite the age gap. I'm getting older and that is not a easy thing for some of us regardless of our appearance.

[Older now]

Maybe she did have a crush but now recognizes that you talk to women in general and now sees you as a safe person to talk to? If you're happily married, it's not an issue for you, it could be for her and her fiance but that's not your problem. If your concern is that you don't want to have inadvertently led someone on, you should start paying more attention to people's body language and the inflection of their voice. Most people engage in some type of behavior that could be considered flirting if they are a people person.

Should be fairly easy to recognize when for someone else, that friendly personality has been interpreted the wrong way. I think your post does suggest that you might have more interest in this whole topic than someone who is happily married, that whole protesting too much comes to mind. If you are in some way needing to remind yourself that you are happily married, stay away from the woman.

Oh, I rarely see her. Probably once a week and for only a few minutes. She is acting differently now so maybe whatever it was has passed.

[Rich]

Because we all have egos and a 25 year old good looking female having a crush on a 40 year old guy gives him a boost. A battery recharge in life.

It's not a jump to say that he willthen cheat on his wife. It's just a good feeling to know that you still have it, on some level. For married guys it's a nego boost nothing wrong with that.

[Older now]

Rich you nailed it. Heck, I've not even seen this woman in weeks and that does not bother me one bit.

[cristian9854]

Watch out for that crush to not become obsession. For the moment you should talk open with her and tell her what are your true intentions. Let's hope she doesn't have other intentions with you.
Good luck.

[Older now]

Watch out for that crush to not become obsession. For the moment you should talk open with her and tell her what are your true intentions. Let's hope she doesn't have other intentions with you.
Good luck.

Have not seen her in a month. I don't feel anything for her. She's a kid.

[eloquent]

whether she did develop a crush or not.. its best that you keep your distance with her, both of you are committed to someone else and this kind of curiosity usually leads to something that is never good and regretful...