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peachy905
06-06-2010, 08:25 PM
Hello,

I am a 29 year old divorced mother of 2 little girls. I have a boyfriend of a year and a half that is 27 never married. We talk about getting married and raising a family and we get along very well. He has a full time job and farms with his father. This requires him to spend most early mornings and afternoons and weekend days at his parents farm working as well. We don't live together as we don't feel that it is right since we aren't married and we want to set a good example for my girls. He spends as much time as he can with me, either he comes to my house in the evenings or I go help him work and we go spend the evening at his house. It has upset me in the past that he has trouble finding time to do things with me, but I grew up the daughter of a farmer and I know the commitment it takes. However, this weekend he managed to set aside 2 nights and 3 days to spend with old hight school friends on a float trip. All guys, most married, and he has only seen one of them a total of 3 times in that past 2 years. It just really bothers me that we have never spent a day together without him working, and we have never gone away anywhere, because he is too busy, yet he had time for this. I just don't know what I should say to him? I told him I was upset, he is mad at me for being mad at him.

smackie9
06-12-2010, 02:59 AM
He knows you will be there for him all the time....this thing with his friends will be his one and only opportunity to do this with his old friends, to relive some old memories and reconnect.....that's why. I'm sure if some girl friends from high school that you haven't see like in forever, call you up to get together for a few days to catch up and have fun....you would go too.

sonofemer1
06-17-2010, 07:04 PM
I agree, friends are VERY important to stay connected with while you're in a relationship. I don't think its right to be upset with him spending time with his high school buddies but I do know where you're coming from. Just take the night and make the most of it for yourself, get a pedicure and a massage with a friend or something or spend a night out with your little girls ^.^
Part of being in a relationship is about making goals together, maybe you should suggest to him that you two should take a vacation together and set a date for it and make sure nothing gets in the way.