sayin i love you.

[nichol]

ive been tryin to figure out when is the best time to first say it. the guy im with has jokingly said quite a few times "oh youre in love" to me but ill deny it and then say "oh are u?" and he denies it. so im wondering if its his way of opening up to say it or get me to say it. i was just wondering if anyone could give me any ideas on why a guy would bring that up a lot? could it be a sign that he loves me and wants me to say it first?
last night i texted him and said that i had something i wanted to tell him the next day but he calls right away and was like what? i was just like i cant say it now. he kept sayin just say it and sounded like he was getting irritated (it was like 3:30am)...i was like dont get mad and said that itd sound stupid now...so finally we just said goodnight and that was it...im wonderin if he had an idea of what i was gonna say cuz i told him that he always asks bout it.
sometimes i do feel like i wanna say it but then just cant get the words out...maybe thats a sign that i shouldnt say it! lol...ive just never told any guy that before even though i am 22 years old...
but any advice or ideas would be great! thanks...and sorry this is kinda long!

[eightball61]

Is this the same guy that had your mind in a boggle because he made a site of girls?

The only time I feel one should say "I love you" is when its truelly meant. Never say it for the heck of it becau you could be hurt of the outcome. He may be trying jokingly to open up but its hard to tell. You need to go with what you feel and when the time is right for you then express those feelings.

[Diablo]

How long have you been running around with the guy? Just go with your instinct on this. The next time you get amped up to say it; just do it. The worst thing that can happen is that he'll break your heart later, but nobody dies from a broken heart. Well actually, some people do and the worst thing that can happen is that you go into a bad marriage and hate each other for the rest of your lives. But as for right now, just say it at a good time. You want to, so just do it.

[nichol]

yeah it is the same guy. we've still been talking.
i guess ill just have to go with my gut but wait until he says something again bout being in love...
thanks for your replies!

[eightball61]

Please don't think that I am down talking your boyfriend. I just I find it really wierd that a few weeks ago you were really bothered that he never told you about his web site. :confused: This was a problem that needed atention.

You don't want to live this relationship as a big lie. what happens if you were to marry him and he continue his site. In that time he wouldn't have still told you about it and everything would be a big lie.

You both are in a relationship together and you need to share a life as one. He is living a seperate life right now because you are not included on his little side job. If he didn't see this as an issue then he would have told you about it. I see something seriously wrong here with the relationship and you both need to sort this out before you sort feelings out. Saying "i love you" is a big step in progressing to the future. You need to figure out what you want out of this relationship and what its going to take to make it in the future...as a hint its usually trust, communication, & honesty.

[Rich]

You say I love you to a person whenever you want to because it's what you feel inside of you towards that person.

This.."i'm not saying it before you do", is just childish crap. What are you 15 years old?

Love isn't conditional! It's isn't, "I love you, only if you love me or only if you tell me first".

Either you love him or you don't.

Be an adult. Control your own life. If you love someone, then say it. The worst that can happen is that they say that they don't love you back or if they don't say anything at all. But at least you'll know and then you can move on and stop wasting time and energy on them.

At best, they say it back. Which then you know what you have.

My God, where are all the adults in this world?

[Howard]

I say I Love You to Robin numerous times to her and she knows it.Her and I have been dating for 8 months now.I say it from deep within my heart cause I've never felt this smitten in almost 8 years.:)