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Sweet Maple
06-09-2010, 06:50 PM
Ok so me and my fi have been together for a year now. We have been fighting sooo much that we took a break it was becoming unhealthy fighting where his mom ad friends dont think we should get back together. After weeks of a beak he asked me back.I am not one of those girls to be blind and blame herself, and it was a two way street but its true i was getting crazy and got mad over the stupidest things, so ya he needed to work on things but i have pushed bfs in the past away cuz of my behavior, anyway when we took our break i took alot of time to think ok i cant be smoothering he spends every day w m he does need his friends and i cant get mad at thios or that. I do have a wonderful man who always shows me he love me no matter what i really dropped the ball. Our months of fighting really got to him and became very unhealthy or us he was so wrapped up everyday w me and no one else and my family he losthis friends uz he chose to b w me and when he was deciding to go out w them i was freakin out n e way after a break and lots of thinkin he did ask me back



so far its been good but we have been going really slow like starting all over and i cn see onis fac and a lil of his actions he is scared to put alll his heart in it he even admitted he is scared we will go back to how we were he said there was may nights and days he was stressed out over us and lostsleep and he is ocd lol but realy he is so him stressing is wayy worse than me stressing and he was stressing bout not havin a job his car being taken from his dad im going back to his moms and i was supporting he hated it and anted to be a man but i loved him now he doesnt want n e help and said that he doesnt want to get in a serious long term realtionshio yet cuz there are one things we need to work on its onl been one week since we got back together so far so good and i dont have anger if he doesnt call or text. He actually had his phone off for a few days due to non payment he called me when he said he woulkd but i was ok w us not being able to communicate w each other and not freak what he was doing so in a way it wasa good test for us but when las night when he said that about him not knowing if he wants to commit to something long term and he doesnt want to be all about us and get caught uo and loose sight of his life like a job car and stuff again throws me off! HE called me later and said i love u and i do see us in the future i am so sorry for what i said i love u blah blah. I know he called and he was sincerly sorry and i know he is scared to go back to old ways but do i not freak out and like he said we just have to take iot day by day and not worry too much or we will get paranoid or is this something i should b worried about. I know we do have alot of ground and hurt to get over and i am on the same page but does this sound like we r really on the same pg?

smackie9
06-13-2010, 12:26 AM
Well lets see here. I suspect you are controlling, needy and gets easily upset when you don't get your way...am I right? The reason I say this is that you mention that in the past you have pushed you last bfs and all the other comment you made about yourself. That is the stress your bf is really talking about. You are interrupting his progress of getting his life together by your demanding behaviour. He doesn't want to waste his time making a commitment if you can't change. I'm sure he's given you plenty of opportunities to do so, but he isn't seeing it, so he has pretty much given up.

Sweet Maple
06-13-2010, 02:26 AM
Well lets see here. I suspect you are controlling, needy and gets easily upset when you don't get your way...am I right? The reason I say this is that you mention that in the past you have pushed you last bfs and all the other comment you made about yourself. That is the stress your bf is really talking about. You are interrupting his progress of getting his life together by your demanding behaviour. He doesn't want to waste his time making a commitment if you can't change. I'm sure he's given you plenty of opportunities to do so, but he isn't seeing it, so he has pretty much given up.

No I understand what u r sayin yes I was that person yes he did give me oppurtunities when we were together after we got back together it was very easy goin I gave him his space the time he bneeded with his friends everything and ya I kno he gave up and that's y I broke up w him fri if he cared I wouldn't b writin and I never have worried or doubted our relationship ever but on thur night he was gettin all of the stuff ready for the garage sell and I said open my side of the closet and he did and started takin the hangers off I said no I wnt them there I don't wanna selel that he s said ok but I need these hangers I got confused but I didn't wanna starta f ight thinkin ok my stuff ios still in the drawer but no he than went to the dramwer and he said he was askin for the garage sell but he not once mentioned it even said take this hoome its good clothes u never ewear I said its winter clothes I wnt it there but I ended takin all my shit cuz he wanted it out he left when he came bk I had been cryin he said were u cryin and got mad he used b upset if I took my shit out but nooo he wanted it out and had no compassion for my feelin and u could tell he didn't even wanna deal w my cryin I said sorry I cried but all my stiff has been there for a year and now I packed it all out its a sign to push me aeway he said no lookn what I am doin a sale but don't over stress
N e wayy I broke it off so he can miss me and fig out what the hell he wants cuz right now ts not me

We were takin it slow but he didn't call me baby his heart was not there I was being strung along I am hurtung reallly bad but if he wants me he will come bk I think he needs time to think what je wants

packagedealx3
06-19-2010, 04:05 PM
In addition to you post being unintelligible, neither one of you apparently should be in a relationship until you fix what is wrong with yourselves.