LoveLostLife
06-27-2010, 08:38 PM
I met my girlfriend in College, we had a foreign language class together, and once we started working on a project together we both felt like their was crazy magic. We'd laugh like ten year olds in the middle of the library over the stupidest things, it was absolutely amazing. However, at the time she was in the fourth year of a relationship she obviously wasn't happy in. Long story short, she ended up dropping out of Spanish in order to get away from me because she was so afraid of cheating in her relationship. She had to stop texting me and sent me a goodbye message one day saying that she had to sort out her own life, and couldn't have my temptations.
Next semester, we ended up in a class again together. This time, she had ended her relationship because things were just too boring. She told me later that they had no , no fun, and were just complacent of each other. She explained to me on one of our first dates the passion she felt for me, and why she had dropped out of Spanish to run so far away from me. The passion was incredible, we were both head over heels for each other. Months passed as we dated, and she asked me the question at one point if we should slow down, or what my opinion was on stepping back and not getting too serious.
I of course did not want to slow down or take a break, because even at this time I was convinced this is the girl I wanted to marry, and spend the rest of my life with, even though I had not told her I loved her. However at the time I was being quite childish, and did not think of how selfish it was of me to continue to urge forward into a serious relationship after she had just gotten out of a failing four year attempt. The spark started to die out because we were together so often I don't suppose I gave her time to miss me. Unfortunately, six months later we are not on a break because it looks alot like I smothered her.
Her birthday came up, and she was turning 29, and completely not happy about it. I'm 20 years old, and she worried this was a problem before, but I have convinced her through my actions that I am not immature, and would have no problem besides a stable financial background. (Which I am working on, quite hard.)
A week before her birthday, things seem to get a little weird, she stopped acting quite the same towards me. Her dog even seemed to change its attitude, and I continued to set things up for a huge surprise birthday party. Which turned out to be a great success, no one in her past had ever done something so extravagant. A few weeks later, we haven't seen eachother for a week or more, and it's because she tells me she's now trying to figure out who she is. She's confused, and worried that she's not ready for me, but tells me I'm the man of her dreams, the one she has always wanted, and still wants.
She's about to start nursing in the fall, and that would mean she would have barely a single free day a week, so I worry that she fears my infidelity or lack of commitment if she runs such a busy schedule. Also that she might not be able to handle thoughts of a relationship when trying to focus on schooling may also be a concern. She's at the point where she's afraid to talk to me on the phone or won't see me in person because she fears of how hard she'll fall, and won't be able to resist.
I'm at wits end, if it means stepping back and taking it slower I'd be fine with that, but I have no idea how to get this set up now? I'm a firm believer in soul mates, and meeting the other half of yourself, and she's it.
I'm at a loss of what to do..
Next semester, we ended up in a class again together. This time, she had ended her relationship because things were just too boring. She told me later that they had no , no fun, and were just complacent of each other. She explained to me on one of our first dates the passion she felt for me, and why she had dropped out of Spanish to run so far away from me. The passion was incredible, we were both head over heels for each other. Months passed as we dated, and she asked me the question at one point if we should slow down, or what my opinion was on stepping back and not getting too serious.
I of course did not want to slow down or take a break, because even at this time I was convinced this is the girl I wanted to marry, and spend the rest of my life with, even though I had not told her I loved her. However at the time I was being quite childish, and did not think of how selfish it was of me to continue to urge forward into a serious relationship after she had just gotten out of a failing four year attempt. The spark started to die out because we were together so often I don't suppose I gave her time to miss me. Unfortunately, six months later we are not on a break because it looks alot like I smothered her.
Her birthday came up, and she was turning 29, and completely not happy about it. I'm 20 years old, and she worried this was a problem before, but I have convinced her through my actions that I am not immature, and would have no problem besides a stable financial background. (Which I am working on, quite hard.)
A week before her birthday, things seem to get a little weird, she stopped acting quite the same towards me. Her dog even seemed to change its attitude, and I continued to set things up for a huge surprise birthday party. Which turned out to be a great success, no one in her past had ever done something so extravagant. A few weeks later, we haven't seen eachother for a week or more, and it's because she tells me she's now trying to figure out who she is. She's confused, and worried that she's not ready for me, but tells me I'm the man of her dreams, the one she has always wanted, and still wants.
She's about to start nursing in the fall, and that would mean she would have barely a single free day a week, so I worry that she fears my infidelity or lack of commitment if she runs such a busy schedule. Also that she might not be able to handle thoughts of a relationship when trying to focus on schooling may also be a concern. She's at the point where she's afraid to talk to me on the phone or won't see me in person because she fears of how hard she'll fall, and won't be able to resist.
I'm at wits end, if it means stepping back and taking it slower I'd be fine with that, but I have no idea how to get this set up now? I'm a firm believer in soul mates, and meeting the other half of yourself, and she's it.
I'm at a loss of what to do..