Is cheating?

[AlexCrystal]

Continuing on with a topic brought up in a different thread.
So the question here is....
Is a guy watching considered cheating?
What does it tell about the relationship? Is he not happy? Or is it just what guys do....nothing more nothing less...??

[SALly]

I say no it is not cheating. Some girls look at too. It isn't just guys. They could be perfectly happy, some people just don't see anything wrong with it. Some people find it totally wrong, offensive, and appalling. I think it is a matter of opinion. I sometimes go online and look at toys and it turns into looking at a little bit of . It is funny to me, and sometimes I get some new position ideas. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong in doing that.

[eightball61]

THIS IS MY PERSONAL VIEW


I don't see cheating at all. is about looking at two objects and getting off from the stimulation of your hormones. Now, some will disagree and will think that is considered cheated. I don't see it as cheating because it doesn't tie any physical contact, emotions for both parties, and/or verbal ual communcation.

There are many forms of cheating and every person will differ opinions to each one. In general I am against cheating. I never been through a situation that deals with cheating but I will stick to my guns and will end the relationship if I got cheated on. To me cheating shows lack or respect and feelings. I find it hard to believe that the person that cheated can still love after they cheated. I guess its possible but they didn't love during the time they decided to mess with someone else.... :confused:

To get back on track though, if was considered cheating by the majority of people out there then this issue would be bigger than it is now. This is the year 2005 and sells. You see and hear everywhere you go today and there is no way to hide it.

When looking at you are looking at another couple having pleasure. Sometimes there are reasons why a person has to look at but honestly I look at it because I am either horney at the time, I need to let lose, or I just need to look at something different.

Because I look at and like to see something different doesn't mean I don't love or respect my GF. She asked me before to get rid of my movies and books and I did for her. Part of the agreement though I was still able to look but not own. I don't have a problem with not owning because I usually get bored after I see the same thing once.

My GF knows that I look at . I don't look often but I do look when needed. I don't look because I dream of having with other girls. I look because I have hormones that will rage at certain points and when she is not around then I need to have a safe guard such as .

If one calls cheating then they should call cheating. is very healthy and I encourage all to do it. For me its very hard to get off just to a mental image because I lose train of thought. I need to have an image I can look at to help me proceed with my victory on getting off.

Again, I don't see as cheating nor ever will. It could be just a guy thing but I have heard of girls looking at it also. is very harmless compared to the physical contact one has when they really are cheating with another person.

Cheating classifies (to me) as physical, verbal, and emotional thoughts. As I said it all varies from person to person but anything around these lines is something I wouldn't do or tollorate. I could care less if my GF wanted to watch to to. is a natural thing and is just used to enhanced the mind of visual images...To me its a harmless beautiful thing until its taken to far.

[2BDMD]

Watching or visiting websites are not cheating. With that said, it can be a relationship "stopper" or problem. If your man rather wack off to than spend time with you, then, yes, there is a problem.

He may have lost interests in you and you do not physically turn him on anymore. If this is the case, then it's tough to get him off/quit of the unless you get plastic surgery and/or get in shape.

We, men cheat and/or rather be with when our women no longer satisfies us most physically, but at times emotionally as well.

[inquisitive]

My Personal Opinion :)

I don't consider cheating. My SO and I have watched it together numerous times in the past. It's not really something we're into though. But done together can be a fun, intimate experience.

I don't think it's one person should watch it on their own though. I don't think it helps lead to a healthy life within a relationship. I wouldn't sit down and watch a o by myself, and my SO doesn't either. To me it just doesn't make sense; I personally don't understand what you get form watching by yourself, unless you're fantasizing about the women/men that are in the .

To me cheating is physically, emotionally, or even verbally being ual with someone else. This can be in person, over the phone, or online. If you're in a commited loving relationship you should not be wanting, or needing, to go outside of that relationship. If you do, to me, it shows that you are not satisfied in the relationship and should have either discussed the problems involved long ago, or left.

If someone is viewing (without their partner) it makes me wonder what they're missing in their relationship that they need to look at other people, and get turned on by other people.

Again just my opinion.

[Howard]

In My opinion, is not considered cheating at all. is only a fantasy and what you see on TV or on videotape is not what you're gonna see in real life.So,you may see a buxom blond with big breasts and big ass or a handsome guy with a large doesn't mean your mate is gonna look like that.So,It's not cheating at all.