Mothers Day question

[bdtraders]

Im putting together a lil scrap book type of thing for my SO where I will put a letter in it from me , and letters i am going to have her younger kids write that still live at home with us,
We are having lunch at her sisters on Mothers day and her oldest son that dosent really talk to her and lives elsewere is going to come to suprise her.
My question is should i contact him and have him write a letter to put in the book, or just let him be and leave him alone.

[eightball61]

We are having lunch at her sisters on Mothers day and her oldest son that dosent really talk to her and lives elsewere is going to come to suprise her.
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So is he or he isn't coming down to see her?

If he is allready going to come suprise her then maybe it be best that he keep to his original plan. I don't see anything wrong in you calling him. Maybe you both can work out a game plan but you leave his Mother's Day treat all up to him....Thats just my opinion.

[SALly]

I would say yes contact him, tell him what you are doing and tell him you would like him to write a letter also. Then leave it at that. If he does, he does, if not then leave it at that. That way he won't feel excluded but he can choose not to if he wishes.

[bdtraders]

Yea he is coming to see her, now dont get me wrong he dosent live far away, actually lives like 5 mins away from us, but chooses to distannce himself from her because of the way she used to treat him. (moods)
I called and left him a message telling him wha ti was doing and if he wanted he could write up a quick letter, i gave him my numbers and told him to call me and let me know.

like you said Sally this way he cant say i didnt try to include him.

[eightball61]

like you said Sally this way he cant say i didnt try to include him.


& now you did what you needed to do. Time to leave it and see what happens.