endless problems...*sigh*

[BigGurlBigWorld]

:( ok so its been almost 4 weeks now...im back here again hehe.
Whats happened is that i told my guy friends that i didnt have feelings for them and just wanted to remain friends. After awhile they decided to just let me go and do my things.
As for my bf we kinda broke off, it was hard but i guess this is for the best since nothing's working out between us.

BUT...one confusing problem i have now..its going to be long so bare with me...i have a guy friend i know from way back and he's got a gf now and all. But before that I really liked him, than after this one incident between use we've never talked or contact each other anymore. what happened was that a year ago some stupid gossip got to him that i like him alot and i felt embarrased and bad because he wouldnt say anything to me so one time a guy friend of mine who really likes me got piss at him for making me feel so bad and he punched him in the face telling him that i've got so much feelings for him and how much he's hurting me for ignoring me. My friend that i really liked didnt punch my other friend back and he just stood there all confuse. It made me real upset and quilty for this.

After that we finally talked about it but it was only for just alittle bit and since than he got distance from me yea it hurted terribly inside. I didnt know what i did wrong to tell you the truth. but i felt quilty yet upset that he just left me in the dessert and rot to death.

Well lets get to the point here. So its been a year now and we've started talking more and we flirt alot, we have hella laugh all the times and joke around so much. In a way we feel more comftable with things, im not really sure why. but anyways what happened was that yesterday i was talking to a friend and he came by and started flirting with me and when he finally made my friend leave us alone..while flirting still he tried to make a move on me.and he huged me.
but one big problem is that he has a gf and they have some what of a good relationship from what i know.

I went through a hard healing process like anyone else that had their heartbroken..and soon i stop thinking about him but now that he's back i feel so lost and confuse and i dont want my strong feelings towards him to come back and dissapoint me again. (which im starting to feel at the moment) im scared to death i'll end up hurting myself again. im scared. :(

i dont know whats going on now im very lost so if anyone has any advice or ANYTHING at all its very very aprreciated..thanks for listening everyone..

[eightball61]

Your feelings change more rapidly than I change my underwear in one day. It just clearly shows you are not ready for a true relationship. Its like a guy walks into your life you gain feelings for them. You can't be in a committed relationship thinking this way. What you need to do is get the dating scene out of you head first and just date around. Dating around won't do any harm. You will be exploring for that future potential mate and at the same time getting these erges out of your system.

Its not healthy to be in a committed relationship having these thoughts. Your mind needs to be more settled if you want to settle. I know this may not have been the advice you are looking for but I really think it was appropriate for the nature involved. Please understand where I am coming from and take your time with things.

[Rich]

How would you feel if your BF was flirting with another girl, like this guy is doing with you?

Would you trust a guy that had a GF and flirted with another girl? If not, then why pursue this guy?

If he can do it to her, then he can do it to you. If he's not happy with his current GF, then he should leave her. At that point he would be open to flirt and start things up with you. By not doing that he's sort of showing his truer self.

Beware and be forewarned.

[Diablo]

Okay, so if you take up with the guy, you could get your heart broken. Would that kill you? Somehow I think not. There comes a point in time where you just have to say, "Damn the torpedos, full speed ahead." If you're wanting to take up with the guy, then do it. He could leave you for another woman later, but most relationships are temporary anyway.

[BigGurlBigWorld]

oh yea i havent been on so i havent replied hehe...well what happen between my guyfriend who flirted with me, the one who was about to kiss me and all.. well we were talking about it and he and i were just laughing about what happened and told me he would never try to do something stupid (like kiss me) and just denying some stuff. but now i understand and realize that he was just playing around with me, i actually i feel better that it meant nothing because if it meant something it would be complicated with him having a girlfriend and all those things.

lately he and i have been very easy-going with each other and laughs just comes naturally to both of us. We make each other laugh like crazy lol. something very new between us.. i wonder is he just being friendly with me?.. and after 1 year he just shows up again and has a gf and all....but somehow we're always fooling around whenever we're around each other...i dont know what he's thinking..ok well im just trying to let it go and want to have closures...

[eightball61]

i wonder is he just being friendly with me?.. and after 1 year he just shows up again and has a gf and all...


Its ok to be friendly but since he has a GF a line has to be drawn at some point.

[BigGurlBigWorld]

oh yea and one more thing...somehow i dont feel hurt by him anymore because he's hurt me too many times the fact that he ignored me for so long and other stuff. i've gotten so use to it, now Im just daze and confuse why he would do that to me suddenly after what has happened.

[eightball61]

now Im just daze and confuse why he would do that to me suddenly after what has happened.


I am confused also because he has a girlfriend. :confused: