Advice Needed....pretty desperate!!

[TaliaLove]

Hi,

I have been with my boyfriend for just over three years. For the past year and a half I have had my own flat...when I moved in I brought up the idea of my boyfriend moving in with me and he wasnt keen at all. So I left it respecting the fact that he wasnt ready....yet a year and a half later, he still won't move in. Not only that but in recent months I've been feeling like he's taking things for granted, he's no where near as affectionate as he always was, doesnt compliment me when I put loads of effort into looking nice for him and doesnt seem interested in the things I suggest we do. I have brought this up with him and said I'm feeling really unloved and cried my eyes out, he says he's sorry and asks what he can do to make me feel better.

I dont think i'm asking a lot, I just want kisses and hugs and to feel special and like he loves me still. He says he loves me all the time but I think its a different thing to say it than to show it. Im really feeling fed up and at the point of thinking that I'm wasting my time but thought I'd get some advice before I make such a big decision as I do really love him.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, and please be honest if you think I'm being too demanding then let me know.

Thank you

Talia xx

[smackie9]

At the end of this stage of a relationship, it's usually time to reassess where you are at. You have to ask yourself are you where you want to be in your relationship now? Are all your expectations being fulfilled? Do you plan to marry say within the next 2 years? Is there any talk of the future? If he doesn't want to move in with you, do you actually see this relationship going to the next level soon?

Now after about a year and a half things do slow down but I don't think this is the real issue here. I just put forward some questions for you to ask yourself to see if it's worth keeping this relationship. If you don't see things getting better, don't waste your time. More than likely they won't.

You can try one last ditch effort by making him miss you. Stop spending so much time with him and go do things with other people and see where it takes you.