sensitveguy
05-04-2005, 06:19 PM
The ex gf and I started out as just friends , she is a really good friend with a guy friend of mine. We started to hang out more and more and it was becoming obvious that there was attraction on both parts . Then one day she told me; she liked things the way they are right now , just as friends.So we agreed to be just friends.. I was a little dissapointted but I really liked her just as a friend , so I was OK with it. A few days later we were hanging out at her place , we started wrestling on the couch and I kissed her , she kissed me back and we started making out.She then reminded me what she had said about just being friends ,but said" what the hell it feel so right."
We were together as a couple for about three months and we got along amazing , we had so much fun together. We had everything in common, and could talk for hour about anything. There was real strong connection , but I always got the feeling she was hesitant or nervous about the relationship.
She tried to break up with me one day , because she thought I was not commited to a relationship to her, I proved to her how much I cared about her and things were good for a couple of weeks .a couple of weeks later she broke up with me again and gave me some lame excuse and told me she didn't want to be involved with problems in my life,she kissed me before telling me this though .
So,she was calling me again a few days later and asked me back after a couple of weeks. We spent a couple of nights together then she started to avoid me and broke up with me again. this time different reasons. We were talking again a week later and she told me she wanted to be just friends like we agreed. I accepted this and tried to be her friend , but she was always giving me mixed signals (intimate touching).So,the being just friends bit was getting to me and I poured my heart out to her one day and told her I could not be just a friend.She told me she was not interetesd in me anymore, but she asked me out a couple of days later. She was holding my hand for the first time in two months and being very touchy around me, she was even hugging me. She invited me on a camping trip with her friends (guys).
She asked me to come camping with her, she was really enthuiastic (sp?) about me coming, and let me share her tent. The camping trip went Ok , but there seemed to be a little tension. So, after the trip she started to avoid me. Untill I called her up one day , she told me she was uncomfortable around me now and struggled to think of things to say to me .
After a couple of months of NC I sent her a birthday card, she absolutly loved it.She talked about doing things together again in the future.We were talking for hours again and even being flirtatious. She asked me out a couple of times and again invited me to go camping with her friends ( guy).
She invited a guy she dated briefly about a year ago. The first day I was a little weary of him ,but I started to talk to him the next couple of days,but he was a very quite guy and stuck to himself most of the time. Me and the ex had a great time , we were just being friends but she was paying more attention to me than the other two guys she even snuggled up to me around the campfire .I thought the trip went well. After the trip I started getting the feeling she was avoiding me again,but she was very busy and stressed over her graduate studies ,so I left it at that.
Now, after a few weeks I knew she was avoiding me , I just tried to be nice to her hoping she would stop avoding me, but after a couple of months It was starting to really bother me l'd see her around at the University swimming pool and she would talk to me and want to swim with me one day and ignore the next for no reason , I couldnt figure it out. So, I tried to avoid her,but she was always very friendly and talkitive to me, after a couple of weeks of not seeing each other .The longer we didnt see each other the more friendly she was.
A few weeks ago I called her to ask her why she was avoiding me.Her reason ;she did not feel comfortable around me because I was "cold" to her friend at the camping trip.That blew me away ,I thought we had an awesome time. She said she couldnt be with someone who was not nice to her friends. She told me I was always good to her ,and she had a lot of fun with me , but I was not friendly to others. I am a shy person and not the most outgoing person in the world but I am not unfriendly to people.I do try to be social, i just give a bad first impression with some people.
It seems like as soon as things get to close for her comfort she looks for any reason to get away from the relationship.She never tells me when something bothers her , she would rather just end the relationship. I have never once put any pressure on her , I never talked about relationship stuff, I always treid to keep it light and fun. I took things real slow .I always let her make all the first moves. She use to tell me that I was "different and not like other guys. I am just really frustrated now.
When we went camping we were "just friends". So why is it that her other friends are more important to her than me?
Any opinions on this please.
BTW she is 33.
:confused:
We were together as a couple for about three months and we got along amazing , we had so much fun together. We had everything in common, and could talk for hour about anything. There was real strong connection , but I always got the feeling she was hesitant or nervous about the relationship.
She tried to break up with me one day , because she thought I was not commited to a relationship to her, I proved to her how much I cared about her and things were good for a couple of weeks .a couple of weeks later she broke up with me again and gave me some lame excuse and told me she didn't want to be involved with problems in my life,she kissed me before telling me this though .
So,she was calling me again a few days later and asked me back after a couple of weeks. We spent a couple of nights together then she started to avoid me and broke up with me again. this time different reasons. We were talking again a week later and she told me she wanted to be just friends like we agreed. I accepted this and tried to be her friend , but she was always giving me mixed signals (intimate touching).So,the being just friends bit was getting to me and I poured my heart out to her one day and told her I could not be just a friend.She told me she was not interetesd in me anymore, but she asked me out a couple of days later. She was holding my hand for the first time in two months and being very touchy around me, she was even hugging me. She invited me on a camping trip with her friends (guys).
She asked me to come camping with her, she was really enthuiastic (sp?) about me coming, and let me share her tent. The camping trip went Ok , but there seemed to be a little tension. So, after the trip she started to avoid me. Untill I called her up one day , she told me she was uncomfortable around me now and struggled to think of things to say to me .
After a couple of months of NC I sent her a birthday card, she absolutly loved it.She talked about doing things together again in the future.We were talking for hours again and even being flirtatious. She asked me out a couple of times and again invited me to go camping with her friends ( guy).
She invited a guy she dated briefly about a year ago. The first day I was a little weary of him ,but I started to talk to him the next couple of days,but he was a very quite guy and stuck to himself most of the time. Me and the ex had a great time , we were just being friends but she was paying more attention to me than the other two guys she even snuggled up to me around the campfire .I thought the trip went well. After the trip I started getting the feeling she was avoiding me again,but she was very busy and stressed over her graduate studies ,so I left it at that.
Now, after a few weeks I knew she was avoiding me , I just tried to be nice to her hoping she would stop avoding me, but after a couple of months It was starting to really bother me l'd see her around at the University swimming pool and she would talk to me and want to swim with me one day and ignore the next for no reason , I couldnt figure it out. So, I tried to avoid her,but she was always very friendly and talkitive to me, after a couple of weeks of not seeing each other .The longer we didnt see each other the more friendly she was.
A few weeks ago I called her to ask her why she was avoiding me.Her reason ;she did not feel comfortable around me because I was "cold" to her friend at the camping trip.That blew me away ,I thought we had an awesome time. She said she couldnt be with someone who was not nice to her friends. She told me I was always good to her ,and she had a lot of fun with me , but I was not friendly to others. I am a shy person and not the most outgoing person in the world but I am not unfriendly to people.I do try to be social, i just give a bad first impression with some people.
It seems like as soon as things get to close for her comfort she looks for any reason to get away from the relationship.She never tells me when something bothers her , she would rather just end the relationship. I have never once put any pressure on her , I never talked about relationship stuff, I always treid to keep it light and fun. I took things real slow .I always let her make all the first moves. She use to tell me that I was "different and not like other guys. I am just really frustrated now.
When we went camping we were "just friends". So why is it that her other friends are more important to her than me?
Any opinions on this please.
BTW she is 33.
:confused: