Jealous Little Sister!!

[trissy]

My boyfriend has a little sister. She doesn't like me. To the extent that she even declined my friend request on Facebook. We were on good terms before I started dating her brother, but now that I am dating him, she is jealous of me and does not like me...
I've talked to a friend about this, and she is a little sister that gets jealous of her brothers' girlfriends as well.

How can I prove to this girl [she's a teenager if that means anything] that I won't steal her brother away from her. We both rarely see him (just a few hours per week at the most), so it's not like I'm hogging all his time.

I tried talking to her about it but I didn't seem to have any effect on her view of me...

[smackie9]

Teenagers don't listen no matter what you say to them. It's just part of life so don't worry about it. The trick is to just ignore her, eventually she will get over it.

[Howard]

Why is she jealous?

[trissy]

She's jealous because he's her big brother and they've always been super close. And he's going overseas in the spring and she's gonna miss him [obviously].

[Howard]

She's jealous because he's her big brother and they've always been super close. And he's going overseas in the spring and she's gonna miss him [obviously].

Isn't that going to disrupt the closeness that the brother and sister have?

[trissy]

She thinks it will; she thinks I am going to steal him away from her. But she currently sees him as often as I do and we even often bring her along when we go places. I mean, of course someday she's gonna have to get over the fact that he has a girlfriend/wife (whether it be me or someone else). That's just part of life.

[smackie9]

Not only that there will be a day that a boy will be taking up her time anyways.

[Howard]

She thinks it will; she thinks I am going to steal him away from her. But she currently sees him as often as I do and we even often bring her along when we go places. I mean, of course someday she's gonna have to get over the fact that he has a girlfriend/wife (whether it be me or someone else). That's just part of life.

So it's like sharing?

[trissy]

In a sense. It's kind of like spending time with his family. I mean, we still have our dates with just us two, but we spend a lot of time with his family as well.

[Honest Adam]

Ignore her, she'll grow out of it.

[cristian9854]

Well maybe she doesn't see you as a good girl for his brother. Just ignore here.

[PrincessB]

You are taking her dislike for you too personally. There is nothing you can say or do to make her like you, all you can really do is continue to include her in activities and drop the subject.

She knows she's getting into your head and that gives her power. When you ignore her and continue to ignore her (as Smackie suggests) she will either become worse and realize her methods are ineffective and give up or just give up.