I woke him up...is he going to be mad at me in the morning?

[trissy]

So today my boyfriend was hanging out with his best friends, so I told him to stop texting me and just text me before he went to bed. Well midnight came and I was feeling ready for bed. So I texted him...no reply. So I thought "Okay, maybe I'll just call him...It's always nice to hear his voice and vice versa..." So I called him, and I ended up waking him up. He had passed out the second he hit his mattress [he had only gotten 3 hours of sleep the night before]. I would have never called him if I had known he was asleep - both my previous boyfriends hated it when I would wake them up in the middle of the night (one would actually get mad at me) - unless it was urgent, of course, and he didn't have to be up early. So we quickly exchanged good nights and I let him go back to sleep.

But now I can't sleep, because I'm afraid he's going to be mad at me [like my previous boyfriend used to] in the morning. But the thing is, he said he would text me before bed, so I feel my decision to call him [thinking he was still awake] is justified. Will he be mad at me?

[Avalice]

I doubt he'll be mad. Don't overthink it!

[smackie9]

Guys don't hold grudges. By the time he calls you (you wait for him to call you) it will be all forgotten. Guys just don't dwell on that kind of stuff unless you are constantly calling him.....then he will have something to be mad about. It's not a bad idea to just pass on calling him and wait til the next day. Guys like a little space to breath once and awhile.

[Honest Adam]

But why are you so afraid of him? So you woke him up once, big deal; it's not like you do it every night. Do you think that he is worried that you'll be mad at him for not texting? You can't be in a mature relationship if you give him all the power.
Good Luck,
Adam

[PrincessB]

I'm going to take a shot in the dark and assume you're the Trissy that's concerned about the bf's teenage sister not liking her.

Since you have a history of coming across desperate, insecure, and/or clingy (that is the most likely reason guys have freaked over your late night calls), I would suggest you test your will power and try to break the cycle. Sure you may have had guys initially enjoy late night calls but the cuteness of such things wear thin faster for guys than girls and the message you're sending is one that can send a guy running faster than a speeding bullet.

Take the hint from Smackie and stop with the late night calls. It doesn't matter if you didn't hear from him that day or if he promises to call and doesn't. Also resist the temptation to chastise him or freak out if he doesn't call when he says he will....always give him the benefit of the doubt til the next day. Then if it becomes a habit then you know he isn't that into you or that his word isn't worth much and you shouldn't waste your time on him.

I'd try to stop internalizing and over analyzing so much because such difficult to break habits are deal breakers for most guys...or the ones you want to keep anyways.

I'm not trying to put you down or anything, but many girls ruin good things by not being able to resist the temptations.