Moving On

[Mags123]

Hi there,

I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago (we lived together) and I now have accepted the break up and I am ready to get on with my life. I feel that I am ready to meet new people, not necessarily to date but just a new circle of people my age (late 20s) who have interests other than bar hopping. I have decided to really focus on my career but in doing so, I feel that I have created a bit of a space between me and my current friends who are not so career oriented but would rather party all the time. How do I go about meeting people my age who are a little more focused and driven by their life's goals. Plus, do you have any suggestions for how to get through those lonely times in a positive way?

Thanks guys,

[CalistaClap]

Volunteer work is a great way to pass some extra time you have, plus it's very rewarding! :)

[eightball61]

You can start of with your personal interest and goals. You can grab a local paper daily or surf the net to see if there is any local gatherings in your area about certain interest you have. If you want to bar hop then try going alone but go to a bar where you are familiar with the people and the surroundings to be safe. You are getting adjusted to a new thing and it will be a little process but sooner or latter good results should show.

Also, if you feel there is distance between you and your old friends then try to get closer if you like. They may not be going the same direction as you but you can still hold onto your goals while spending time with them on down time.

[Mags123]

Thank you guys. That sounds like a great start.

:)

[eightball61]

Anytime Mags123 :) Also I am glad to see that you have moved on. Please keep us posted with your progress.

[Rich]

Get to know folks through work.

I would definately recommend some of these dating services that get pretty indepth with profiles and such.

It's just like shopping. Pictures and profiles. What more could you ask for?

[SALly]

Come on this site and chat with us!!! Everyone is great here.

[eightball61]

Come on this site and chat with us!!! Everyone is great here.

Great Idea....I would have never thought about that..lol :p

[Rich]

I wouldn't say that I'm great.

Maybe spectacular?

LOL

Go to the personals. How easy is that. My God? A catalog of people to possibly date.

If I was single I'd go that route.

[2BDMD]

Try to hang out with people from your work that are around your age. Now, I don't know what type of work you do or if you even want to hang out with people from your work, but work is one of best ways to meet new people.

If not work, perhaps getting back to school. Take a class or two at a local college towards some sort of degree, you'll meet plenty of people there. Academic settings is where most couples meet.

To kill loneliness, that's a tough one. Here's another idea where you can meet people and kill loneliness at the same time, go to a gym/club. You can work out and tone up your body more and meet people. I know plenty of people meet at the gym working out.

Good luck!

[Howard]

You could also try clubs,social gatherings or perhaps chat with your uncle Howard. :D

[Howard]

Volunteer work is a great way to pass some extra time you have, plus it's very rewarding! :)



I do volunteer work myself 2 days a week,4 hours a day. :)

[vaiolust]

I think you have the right idea there, just be sociable, and be yourself, you will get tons and tons of guys talking to you, so no worries there :) i hope things work out well, keep us posted!

[Howard]

you could also try the internet dating but it may not be too smart sometimes but it's worth a try.

[Mags123]

Hi guys, :p

Thanks so much for all the great ideas. I decided to go out on friday night with one of my girlfriends and I met a whole bunch of new people around my age. Even though we did go to a bar, it was more based on conversation rather than getting hammered (even though that can be fun sometimes too!!!!!! :D ) Anyhow, I even started a little flirting thing with this cute guy. Nothing big, just some harmless fun and it really did make me feel "back in the game". I actually felt like an attractive woman for the first time in two years. he he he. Maybe being single can have some serious perks. Thank you so much for the support. You all got me through a very rough patch and I really appreciate your advice.

Talk to you soon and hope everyone is doing fantastic!!!!!

Mags.

[eightball61]

Anyhow, I even started a little flirting thing with this cute guy. .


Glad to see you are moving pretty good without any major hesitation. Keep up this positive approach and I hope all works out for you ;) Keep us updated....

[Howard]

glad to see you're doing much better Mag.Keep up the good work. :)