northerntouch
08-05-2010, 02:07 PM
My Girlfriend who ive been with for 6 months is amazing, there was an instant connection between us and we live together. About 3 weeks ago, she saw a guy she dated with his girlfriend. She date this guy for 2 months last summer and 1 month in the winter, I guess shortly before we met. She actually told me that night that she saw the guy, and avoided contact with him and just went on her way. She told me when she saw him, she thought to herself how good she was with me and wondered why she had dated him. Apparently he partied often and took recreational drugs, and he had chated before on his exes, she said he was a rebound and never envisioned a relationship with him.
Later that week, I notice through browsing history that she checked his profile on facebook twice, although they're not friends. I guess she was snooping at pics. She then told me 2 days later she found out he had a facebook account after he had told her he didnt when they were dating, and that she had looked at his profile and some pics. I again appreciated her honesty, so I didnt say anything.
I then noticed 3 days later she checked again, now I start to get a little annoyed, so I started getting concerned and I guess she could see this. So she actually brought up and told me "you know just because I check some guys profile on facebook that I dated its not a big deal, I feel nothing for him, I was just curious about the GF, and I would never go back with this guy"
I was reassured, but stupid me I checked the history again yesterday and notice she checked again. So I brought it up to her, and she told me she really didnt think she was doing anything wrong she's just curious looking at pictures, she doesnt care about him and its more about his GF, and that girls are competitive and she was comparing.
I guess im wonderingis this really normal, checking 4 times in 3 weeks, I dont want to make this bigger then it should be, but does she still have feelings for this guy? regret not being with him? am I second best? maybe he didnt want a relationship with her, and she did, and now she's jealous of the new GF. They were never actually a couple which is what i dont get, they just dated, so why is she checking so often on facebook even if there not friends.
Later that week, I notice through browsing history that she checked his profile on facebook twice, although they're not friends. I guess she was snooping at pics. She then told me 2 days later she found out he had a facebook account after he had told her he didnt when they were dating, and that she had looked at his profile and some pics. I again appreciated her honesty, so I didnt say anything.
I then noticed 3 days later she checked again, now I start to get a little annoyed, so I started getting concerned and I guess she could see this. So she actually brought up and told me "you know just because I check some guys profile on facebook that I dated its not a big deal, I feel nothing for him, I was just curious about the GF, and I would never go back with this guy"
I was reassured, but stupid me I checked the history again yesterday and notice she checked again. So I brought it up to her, and she told me she really didnt think she was doing anything wrong she's just curious looking at pictures, she doesnt care about him and its more about his GF, and that girls are competitive and she was comparing.
I guess im wonderingis this really normal, checking 4 times in 3 weeks, I dont want to make this bigger then it should be, but does she still have feelings for this guy? regret not being with him? am I second best? maybe he didnt want a relationship with her, and she did, and now she's jealous of the new GF. They were never actually a couple which is what i dont get, they just dated, so why is she checking so often on facebook even if there not friends.