SpookCity
08-07-2010, 11:49 PM
Hello all... I'm new to the site, and needing a little advice. Most of my friends are people I work with, so, because of the nature of the situation, I really can't talkto any of them about it.
A little background info, I was married, and about 4 years ago had a spat with my husband and the relationship sort of fell apart. I moved out and have been on my own since then, but I still have a good friendly relationship with him. We have not filled out any divorce papers.
3 years ago I started working at this company, there was a man there who, since day one, I've found fairly attractive. Not stop you in your tracks gorgeous, but certainly very cute. I'd been keeping my eye on him pretty much the entire time I've been employed there. Usually we'd chit chat a little each night, but nothing major.
As of late though, he's been spending a lot of time in my department when he should be working, and vice versa... He's been coming and sitting outside near me on breaks even though he doesn't smoke. It seems like everytime he passes by my department, I catch him looking at me and then smiling. We've gotten into some playful teasing sessions as well. Most nights that we're both in, he even offers to drive me home.
The whole thing has me a little confused... I don't mind the attention at all, and, on top of my recent weight loss, it's doing wonders for my confidence. But, I'm wondering why it took like 2.5 years for him to come around... Or, does it seem like he is even coming around?
We do have a lot in common, and we do get along really well, but I'm not too sure what I should do from this point onward... I haven't had to try to flirt or to ask anyone out or the like for almost 8 years, so I'm a little out of practice.
Any insight/advice/words of wisdom anyone can offer me on this whole thing would totally be appreciated...
A little background info, I was married, and about 4 years ago had a spat with my husband and the relationship sort of fell apart. I moved out and have been on my own since then, but I still have a good friendly relationship with him. We have not filled out any divorce papers.
3 years ago I started working at this company, there was a man there who, since day one, I've found fairly attractive. Not stop you in your tracks gorgeous, but certainly very cute. I'd been keeping my eye on him pretty much the entire time I've been employed there. Usually we'd chit chat a little each night, but nothing major.
As of late though, he's been spending a lot of time in my department when he should be working, and vice versa... He's been coming and sitting outside near me on breaks even though he doesn't smoke. It seems like everytime he passes by my department, I catch him looking at me and then smiling. We've gotten into some playful teasing sessions as well. Most nights that we're both in, he even offers to drive me home.
The whole thing has me a little confused... I don't mind the attention at all, and, on top of my recent weight loss, it's doing wonders for my confidence. But, I'm wondering why it took like 2.5 years for him to come around... Or, does it seem like he is even coming around?
We do have a lot in common, and we do get along really well, but I'm not too sure what I should do from this point onward... I haven't had to try to flirt or to ask anyone out or the like for almost 8 years, so I'm a little out of practice.
Any insight/advice/words of wisdom anyone can offer me on this whole thing would totally be appreciated...