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caligirl711
08-08-2010, 08:30 AM
I am a mother to a beatiful little girl. Her father and I were together about a year and a half when we got pregnant. It was a very unhealthy relationship and he was very abusive. (in all ways) i still tried to make it work though, but when our daughter was born and his habits didnt change i broke up with him. Its now been 9 months and ive recently had to file a restraining order against him, the court system is not listening to me when i tell them of his criminal background, drug usage, temper, etc. and he is getting unsupervised visitations of our daughter. I feel so scared when she is over there. I dont feel like she is safe at all. he is a major partier and so are his friends and family. i know he wants to get back with me. and i feel like since the court system isnt helping me out that i should take matters into my own hands. make nice with him again, be in a "relationship" with him. I would rather be romantically unhappy, and not date around to know that my daughter is safe and going to be home with me every night and well tooken care of, than risk her over there anymore. her dad would move in with us, and i would just pretend like thats what i want. so that my daughter is safe. all together we were together for almost 3 years and so far have been apart 9 months. what do you think? HELP! im debating.

Diablo
08-17-2010, 01:20 AM
How is having him around all the time going to make your daughter safer? You're justified in objecting to his unsupervised visits, but moving him in is going from the frying pan to the fire. Also, unless he quits his habits and works on his issues, a reconciliation with him won't last. You need to step back and think about what you're talking about doing here. my advice is to not reconcile with him until he quits the partying and wants to work on his issues and even you should wait for a while to see if he can do it. The legal system provides no help at all to women in your situation, but this guy has too many issues to let back in the house.

Rich
08-17-2010, 12:10 PM
keep going throug the courts. If you know that he does drugs around her, then that should be enough for only supervised visits, or no visits. You need proof though.

Document (take pictures) any marks or scrapes on your daughter