Help why do I feel like this??

[honeybun]

Help I really need some advice because I am really struggling with my own sanity at the moment.

I am 28,and have been married to a 39 yr old man who is successful, ambitious and y for 5 years. I am told that I am beautiful but don't believe i am beautiful enough. We have 2 gorgeous children and have just found out we are expecting another one.

I have a wonderful life and everything I could possibly need yet still I am so insecure about my marriage and my husband.

He tells me he loves me all the time, he calls me from work at least 3 times a day, he tells me I am gorgeous and compliments me all the time, he doesn't go out with his friends very often, he has helped my family out unconditionally when they have needed it and he worries all the time about how i feel.

On top of this though I cannot let him go out to a restaurant or bar without wondering who he has looked at. I get paranoid if he stops for petrol to know if he has seen a magazine or newspaper with a half woman on it. If we go out and he glances in the direction of a woman that I think is attractive I go in a mood for hours. If I see a pretty woman on the television I try to distract him so he deosn't see her.

I feel physically sick to think that he finds other women attractive and I just really don't know what to do. Help!!!!!

[eightball61]

Have you seeked or thought about counseling?

[Diablo]

Your self-esteem is low and from what you wrote, there isn't a logical reason for it to be. Whatever the cause, what you wrote indicates a low sense of self-esteem and you should treat it as a threat to your marriage because it is. You need to do things that will help you gain self-esteem. Take up a hobby, get into a new sport, anything that can give you a sense of accomplishment and help you realize that you are not a bad person or an ugly one.