PLease help asap..

[sweetchick]

Okay ive been dating this guy for about 2 and a half months now. We have been hanging out with his friend alot latley and his friend is pretty cool... Well the other night we all hung out and his friend brought this girl with him and me and her hit it off really well she's awesome. i'll call the guy im dating eric and his friend james and james girlfriend jenny. Anywaze jenny has to move tomorrow so since eric had to work the next day we just decided me, james and jenny would go out cuz i wanted to hang out with her once more before she left. james called erics cell and asked to talk to me. i got on and then he gave me his cell and he asked me to txt him so he could get my number so i did. It was only for the purpose of the next day he could call, wake me up and come get me so we could go get jenny. that night when i got home i txt'd and asked him what time they wanted to go out. Anywaze he has yahoo and i have it so i asked what his screen name was so i could see his profile. we started talking on there mostly about eric. anywaze it seems he flirts with me and says things about me and eric. I dont think its a problem me and james talk aslong as its on a friendly level. But I just have this feeling that james is going to try to twist what I have to say around to make eric not like me or make its seem like i like james in a way that is more than a friend. James called my cell twice today. first i didnt anwser second time i anwsered. I dunno i just have a really bad feeling and I like Eric alot like ALOT. almost to the point of love. But what would you guys think if your girl talked to your bestfriend? I dont want to ruin there friendship or anything but I think I should to Eric about this. And what should I say? PLEASE HELP

[bdtraders]

tell him exactly what you just put here. Tell him it might be nothing but just tell him it felt weird to you. if "eric" loves ya he will understand even if it dosent pan out to anything.

also start saving your yahoo chat logs so that you can show him what his friend is saying also, (in your defense).

or the easiest thing is his GF is gone so theres no real reson why he needs to talk to you, unless you and hin are good friends now. I would say ignore him and tell eric why your ignoring his friend when erics not around.

[Diablo]

Well, the guy flirting raises a red flag. Geez, he didn't even ait until Jenny left. The big question is what is James saying to Eric about you. I agree, you should save the chat logs, no matter what else you do.

[eightball61]

I see that you decided to stay with the guy that avoids you, misleads you, and lies to you.... I noticed you erased your other threads so it makes it harder for people to look further into your situation but I guess whatever makes you happy...right?

Anyway, if this guy flirts with you and you are afraid he may twist stuff around then why are you talking to him? This guy really seems like a creep for asking you all your contact information but then again you were dumb enough to give it to him. You have a boyfriend and now you should be watching over his move. He didn't start things off on the good foot and if I was in your position I would be looking more into him rather than venturing off to his creepy frinds.

[luvme4ever]

If I were you I open up to your boyfriend on how you feel, if you done nothing wrong to eric, then u should not have a problem telling Eric about what's been going on and how u're feeling about the situation.

[sweetchick]

Well were not really good friends we just get along... and him and jenny werent really like together, they actually met the same day we all hung out. Anywaze... I was thinking about just calling eric tonight and going and talking to him and saying something like what you guys said. like explain to him that james makes me uncomfortable when we talk sometimes, and it might not be nothing at all but i just feel weird. I dont have a problem talking to james but only on a freind level.. and like tell eric that if he has any problem with it at all to tell me and tell me if james like says anything weird about me and him. Cuz i dont want to cause problems between them but I dont want to make eric mad. And no i erased my previous post for privacy reasons.

[eightball61]

How is your relationship with Eric going?

I do think you have the right idea in making the situation known to Eric. You will also need to step up to the plate and say something to James only if he continues to make you feel uncomfortable....but its not a bad idea to distence yourself know since he is allready doing that.(Just a thought)

[Rich]

Trust your judgement. If James makes you feel uncomfortable, then explain that to Eric. He would apreciate your honesty and will play things accordingly.

Just be careful though because if James and Eric are very tight and best friends for life, then he'll pick James over you.

I know that with my best friends that if some girl didn't care for them and she wasn't the marrying type, then I would just keep her around for and nothing more. That I would blow her off to hang with them. I knew that my best friends were going to be with me for life so I would side with them. I still have two very close friends from my early teens. We're in our 40's now and our wives get along.

I also knew that any girl that I would want to marry would be like me in thought process and humor and would also get along with my friends. That if she didn't get along with them, then something was wrong with her.

All that I'm saying is to be careful and evaluate the friendship between them. If it's not really that tight, then mention it.

[inquisitive]

Personally I wouldn't be talking to James anymore. He's making you uncomfortable. He's not "your" friend, he's your bf's friend. On top of that you're worried he'll ruin things for you and Eric. So stop talking to him, and you should have no problems.

[Rich]

And on top of that I highly doubt that they're really tight friends. With friends like James, you don't need enemies.

Friends don't do what James is doing by badmouthing Eric.

Don't speak to James anymore