Need Some Advice

[ryan9305]

Ok.. Here is the story. I have been with my girlfriend for a little over 5 months, we've known each other for about a year, but finally hit it off together about 5 months ago. I moved into her place after about a month and we said I love you to each other. And I have been happy up until a few weeks ago. The thing is that I am a very independent person and make my own decisions, well after I moved in she started bossing me around and telling me what to do and what i was going to do. I put up with it because I really was in love with her, but I am not so sure now. I look back now and just kinda feel like I have been almost persuaded or brainwashed into the whole relationship. I guess what I am really asking for is some reassurance that my train of thought is right and if it is some advice on how i should go about getting out of the relationship.
Thank You

[smackie9]

LOL! guess what...that what it's really like and you just got a taste of it. Comedians have always made comment that as soon as you get a GF or get married, you no longer have to think because they make all the decision now. Also comments like being p u s s y whipped or handing over your balls are other common quotes made by guys. You are not brainwashed. When in love everyone tends to make the wrong decisions. Love does make you blind. I'm guessing the fog has started to lift and the flaws are noticeable. Your mistake is that you rushed this relationship. You should give it at least a year or two before you live together. Dating is like a test drive. You see if your relationship expectations are being fulfilled. Well you are only into it for 5 months and you see now what she is really like. You could put your foot down and tell her to stop it. But all it will result in is constant arguments. It's a personality clash. She likes to be in control. Oh well better luck next time.

The reason why I say wait about a year or so to move in is because that's when the "Honeymoon stage", is over. The infatuation wears off and you get your sight back so to speak. That's the time when you know if the relationship has potential for marriage or not.