he just doesn't get it

[sammie17]

okay so this guy i've been "seeing" in a way, is not getting the hint. well before i go on too far i must tell you this. we're both 17 he took me to prom last week, (nothing happend), so anyways, he's in love with me rite/ but I dont love him, I barley like him,. I've told him this and now he just wants to be friends. I dont want that, and I dont know how to get rid of him. I've I had to stop answering my cell just to avoid him. I need help. he just doesn't get it. :eek:

[eightball61]

You'll have to be mean in order for him to get the hint. Next time he calls tell him everything you told us and ask him to stop calling. If he then continues after you can threaten him with harrassment or seek stalking and harrassment charges against him. If you be too noce and beat around the bush then the calling won't stop for a long time.

[sammie17]

i dont no how to be mean to him. on a scale of 1-10 on the sensitive scale he's a 10. I dont want him to go all psyco on me. what wud be a way that I cud get through to him without him freeeeeeking out?
:eek:

[eightball61]

what wud be a way that I cud get through to him without him freeeeeeking out?
:eek:


Well you could continue ignoring him but putting your foot down will also be a benefit to you in the future. This will teach how to be stronger. The only real way to ge him to stop faster than ignoring him is putting your foot down. If you don't do that then you are just allowing this to happen even though you don't want it.

[sammie17]

ok so call me a camplainer but how wud I put my "foot" down? miind you without hurting him.

[Rich]

First off you should NOT have gone to the prom with him. Why get his hopes up and go to the prom with him if you don't really like him.

You should not have done that and it was wrong. Wrong signals were sent out by agreeing to go with him.

What you're going to have to say (and nicely at that) is........"listen (insert name here), I'm sorry if I might have given you the wrong impression and I really, really don't want to hurt your feelings, but my feelings lie somewhere else. There's really no easy way for me to say this. But I'm not interested in you as a boyfriend or a friend. I'm sorry.

That's it.

[sammie17]

hey rich, don't get your panties in a buch. I went to prom w/hjim because at the time when he asked I did like him. but once we got to prom, it all changed.

[eightball61]

First off you should NOT have gone to the prom with him. Why get his hopes up and go to the prom with him if you don't really like him.

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Rich, I can understand your view if he was like this before they went to Prom but people can still go to Prom as friends. So in that case it wouldn't have been her fault because there would have been no way she could have predicted he would become this stalker like guy.

[sammie17]

thank you 61. I didnt know he was gonna be like this. if I wud've known this I wud've never gone to prom.

[Rich]

Well, as we can see from her response, she did like him and went with him to the prom. Now she changed her mind and doesn't like him but he still likes her.

Sammie, since you're starting to enter adulthood now, there's something that you're going to need to learn and that is that life's tough sometimes.

Everything isn't nice and neat where feelings don't get hurt. Everyone can appreciate that you don't want to hurt feelings, but sometimes it comes with the territory.

If something bad happened to turn you off to this guy, then just come out and tell him that you don't have any feelings for him anymore and that you'd rather not be friends either. So please stop calling me.

And maybe I prefer my panties in a bunch. It helps my posture when I walk. lol

[sammie17]

thanx 4 the visual rich. lol! :p
ok so I have yo be firm then? well I have to go for now. I'll take everyones advice into consideration.
I'll let you know to marrow how it goes today!
ttfn

wish me luck! :confused:

[eightball61]

And maybe I prefer my panties in a bunch. It helps my posture when I walk. lol


good one Rich :p


I don't disagree with your thoughts. Anything can be possible.... She did like him before and thats probably why they went to prom. Durning that night she probably just figured out that he was not her type. People minds do change and thats why I think she needs to be more straight foward with him. She did tell him she just wants to be friends but it now seems like she doesn't even want any communication with him....if thats true then she needs to put her foot down.

[Diablo]

Good luck Sammie. You might have to get mean. The situation may require it and the longer you put it off, the more it will hurt him.