mookant
09-04-2010, 10:14 AM
Hey
I'm new and really need some advice!
Sorry this is going to be a long one!!
I've been with my bf for 4yrs, I love him but can't cope with things for much longer. I'm 24 but mature for my age and he's 34 but the age gap isn't a problem. We argue, he says I'm not the same and nor is he but he gets very angry now and he used to be very calm. Please help!!
Everything was fine until we got engaged, which is almost 3 years ago. There were a few problems with his parents but now things are getting worse and I have no one to talk to. Soon after getting engaged I found out I was pregnant, which was fantastic! I had a very difficult pregnancy, spent last 3 months on my own apart from evenings as I was unable to walk, I was terrified of the birth but wonderfully calm and collected when it happened. After the birth I suffered with anxiety triggered by his mother. Shortly after emergency c section, bf's mother wanted to hold our son but nearly dropped him!!!!! Thats when it started.
A few weeks after giving birth I discovered bf was txtin another woman asking to meet and have :eek: After confronting him, obviously it was my fault, he felt left out but it was me who had an emergency c section and was struggling at home with no support network. I forgave bf but asked him to txt the woman and tell her he was sorry and ask her to have no more contact, he told me he didn't want to hurt her feelings!!! :eek: What about mine!!! :mad:
Things went from bad to worse with my anxiety (worried things would happen to our son, didn't like to be away from my son). Bf's mother is a very big problem and we argue about her all the time. She trys to take over and calls herself mum to our son, any rules we have she ignores and it drives me crazy! When he was 6 weeks she tried to feed him peanuts because she said it wouldn't hurt!! If you don't let her do what she wants she has a tantrum and cries! She knows exactly what she is doing and has said as much privately to me but to everyone else she blames her depression. Bf's dad ignores it, bf doesn't deal with it and it's making me worse even though i've had treatment.
Thats how things have been for the last 2 years. Nothing has improved with his parents, it's actually gotten worse. Bf has developed a nasty temper and is vicious, he has never been like this before, he's usually so calm and understanding. He can snap if I say the wrong thing or I haven't put the washing on, just simple things.
I don't know what to do, I'm so depressed and lonely, he makes me feel crazy and unloved, I'm begining to wonder if anyone would miss me. Not sure he would.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Thank you x
I'm new and really need some advice!
Sorry this is going to be a long one!!
I've been with my bf for 4yrs, I love him but can't cope with things for much longer. I'm 24 but mature for my age and he's 34 but the age gap isn't a problem. We argue, he says I'm not the same and nor is he but he gets very angry now and he used to be very calm. Please help!!
Everything was fine until we got engaged, which is almost 3 years ago. There were a few problems with his parents but now things are getting worse and I have no one to talk to. Soon after getting engaged I found out I was pregnant, which was fantastic! I had a very difficult pregnancy, spent last 3 months on my own apart from evenings as I was unable to walk, I was terrified of the birth but wonderfully calm and collected when it happened. After the birth I suffered with anxiety triggered by his mother. Shortly after emergency c section, bf's mother wanted to hold our son but nearly dropped him!!!!! Thats when it started.
A few weeks after giving birth I discovered bf was txtin another woman asking to meet and have :eek: After confronting him, obviously it was my fault, he felt left out but it was me who had an emergency c section and was struggling at home with no support network. I forgave bf but asked him to txt the woman and tell her he was sorry and ask her to have no more contact, he told me he didn't want to hurt her feelings!!! :eek: What about mine!!! :mad:
Things went from bad to worse with my anxiety (worried things would happen to our son, didn't like to be away from my son). Bf's mother is a very big problem and we argue about her all the time. She trys to take over and calls herself mum to our son, any rules we have she ignores and it drives me crazy! When he was 6 weeks she tried to feed him peanuts because she said it wouldn't hurt!! If you don't let her do what she wants she has a tantrum and cries! She knows exactly what she is doing and has said as much privately to me but to everyone else she blames her depression. Bf's dad ignores it, bf doesn't deal with it and it's making me worse even though i've had treatment.
Thats how things have been for the last 2 years. Nothing has improved with his parents, it's actually gotten worse. Bf has developed a nasty temper and is vicious, he has never been like this before, he's usually so calm and understanding. He can snap if I say the wrong thing or I haven't put the washing on, just simple things.
I don't know what to do, I'm so depressed and lonely, he makes me feel crazy and unloved, I'm begining to wonder if anyone would miss me. Not sure he would.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Thank you x