School or relationship?

[artschoolgirl]

I am in a 4 year relationship with a guy that loves me dearly, as do I for him. I am applying to schools and want to go to school across the country because they have a program that is not offered in my hometown. He will most likely not come with me as there is nothing there for him. If I go I will loose all contact with him as it is too hard for him any other way (we broke up for a short time and it was incredibley hard for him). If I stay we could eventually get married.
This is my first real long term relationship, and I sometimes have thoughts of what else may be out there (relationship wise), but I know I have a pretty good thing already. We both have things to improve on, but for me the hardest thing for me is that he keeps putting off going to college. I know he'll do it soon, but I feel like I'm progressing faster than he is (and he's four years older) and don't know if I'll have to motivate him to do things forever.
Please help!

[Ricksta]

Unfortunately, there are some decisions in life that require sacrifice, but making tough decisions is a part of the deal and the most significant aspect is how you choose to look at these challenges because life is about challenges. You must use these challenges to your advantage and let them become your opportunity to better yourself into a more productive person.

These are your needs we are talking about here and this is your life and you have to decide on whether these needs you have are important or not and he needs to be supportive, too. If he truly loved you, he would want you to be successful.

You see in our society there is a misconception that having a relationship with someone is about choosing between having love and having freedom, but the reality is that like everything in life it is about finding a balance. It is vital for you to realise this fact because love is about the inner accentuation of each other, which is the reason why he needs to be completely supportive and I am sure you are also a supportive girlfriend to him.

If you decide to go across the country to pursue your education it is actually going to be good for him because judging from what you said he is a needy person and it is important for him to learn to depend on himself without your presence. I mean a relationship cannot be based on need, not when it is supposed to be selfless and about accentuation, you know what I am trying to say?

But what it all comes down to is one question you must ask yourselves:

Do you believe in true love and nothing less and are you willing to let love guide you in the right direction?