katykitt
09-07-2010, 04:38 AM
I'm a realist, 18, and have been hurt emotionally at a young age more than once.
He's a dreamer, 23, was previously engaged until they broke it off about 3 years ago.
He's a wonderful guy, treats me better than anyone that's ever taken me out. He shows genuine affection, is honest, is a gentleman, and acknowledges that I'm still young and have things that I still need to accomplish before settling down someday. He's financially stable, intelligent, and not to mention, he's stunningly handsome with an amazing body. In a way, he's somewhat of an ideal guy that most young girls would dream about.
I think it's fair to say that I'm very mature for my age, from experiences in my adolescence I was, in a way, forced to grow up fast. I like to be as independent as possible but I'm still open to a loving relationship and am pretty sure I'd like to settle down and have a family someday.
Another note, Not that I care about having kids now because i'm so young but I think I probably might. He says he doesn't like kids or he could never be a parent.
After less than a month of dating, he told me he loved me and he says that he never thought he'd be able to feel so strongly about another person again and that he feels extremely connected to me.
At first, we'd spend hours staying up late at night just talking, and we were able to have very intimate conversations, discussing emotional and intellectual things. We continue to see each other nearly every day, and sometimes it's a bit too much for me, I grow exhausted from work and school all day by topping my nights off by spending time with him. I want to enjoy our time together but as I grow more and more tired, I get grumpy and express my discomfort negatively by exerting it on him. Sometimes I feel smothered because when I tell him I need some down time he will still continue to make plans by inviting himself over or asking me to let him make dinner for me or stopping by during my last working hour of the day to see me or gets very sad when I tell him I want to be alone or just rest so I can be energized and in a good mood when I'm with him. I appreciate that he makes his way to see me and I can see how much he cares but I know that I don't feel nearly as strongly as he does. We tell each other we love one another and I do love him as a person, he's truly spectacular but I don't know if he's right for me when I get these constant annoyances..
He talks sometimes, on and on! and in a way preaches knowledge at me about all sorts of subjects. He's very healthy, and follows a strict diet that he tries to get others to follow which makes me a little insecure when it comes to cooking together and eating/exercising. I don't want to have to change my whole lifestyle to be with him although I have taken his advice in some areas and try to adhere to the diet in some ways just not as strictly. The diet is just one of the things/ opinions he tries to impress upon others and he tries to be very persuasive in many areas for others to see/ do things his way. I don't like being told what to do all the time...
People whom i've met that have known him for a long time tell me to put up with his flaw because he's wonderful guy with some really great qualities.
Even my whole family likes him! That's never happened with any guy I've ever brought home.
I may be giving more detail than is necessary to get to my point.
Basically, he feels very strongly about me. I want to feel strongly about him as well but feel that his smothering and my desire to be independent are too much of a conflict. There's no real problem, I just feel like things are rushing too much and that we might spend too much time together and it may be the reason for my lack of interest in him. I tell him I love him but I'm not sure if I do, my mind has somewhat blocked out a lot of my feelings from my past relationship where I was sure I felt that way.. I've gotten closure from that, but this new relationship began less than a week after the last one ended.
If anyone's read this far, Thank you. Any input is gladly appreciated, welcomed, and hoped for. I know my thoughts were scattered all over throughout this.
He's a dreamer, 23, was previously engaged until they broke it off about 3 years ago.
He's a wonderful guy, treats me better than anyone that's ever taken me out. He shows genuine affection, is honest, is a gentleman, and acknowledges that I'm still young and have things that I still need to accomplish before settling down someday. He's financially stable, intelligent, and not to mention, he's stunningly handsome with an amazing body. In a way, he's somewhat of an ideal guy that most young girls would dream about.
I think it's fair to say that I'm very mature for my age, from experiences in my adolescence I was, in a way, forced to grow up fast. I like to be as independent as possible but I'm still open to a loving relationship and am pretty sure I'd like to settle down and have a family someday.
Another note, Not that I care about having kids now because i'm so young but I think I probably might. He says he doesn't like kids or he could never be a parent.
After less than a month of dating, he told me he loved me and he says that he never thought he'd be able to feel so strongly about another person again and that he feels extremely connected to me.
At first, we'd spend hours staying up late at night just talking, and we were able to have very intimate conversations, discussing emotional and intellectual things. We continue to see each other nearly every day, and sometimes it's a bit too much for me, I grow exhausted from work and school all day by topping my nights off by spending time with him. I want to enjoy our time together but as I grow more and more tired, I get grumpy and express my discomfort negatively by exerting it on him. Sometimes I feel smothered because when I tell him I need some down time he will still continue to make plans by inviting himself over or asking me to let him make dinner for me or stopping by during my last working hour of the day to see me or gets very sad when I tell him I want to be alone or just rest so I can be energized and in a good mood when I'm with him. I appreciate that he makes his way to see me and I can see how much he cares but I know that I don't feel nearly as strongly as he does. We tell each other we love one another and I do love him as a person, he's truly spectacular but I don't know if he's right for me when I get these constant annoyances..
He talks sometimes, on and on! and in a way preaches knowledge at me about all sorts of subjects. He's very healthy, and follows a strict diet that he tries to get others to follow which makes me a little insecure when it comes to cooking together and eating/exercising. I don't want to have to change my whole lifestyle to be with him although I have taken his advice in some areas and try to adhere to the diet in some ways just not as strictly. The diet is just one of the things/ opinions he tries to impress upon others and he tries to be very persuasive in many areas for others to see/ do things his way. I don't like being told what to do all the time...
People whom i've met that have known him for a long time tell me to put up with his flaw because he's wonderful guy with some really great qualities.
Even my whole family likes him! That's never happened with any guy I've ever brought home.
I may be giving more detail than is necessary to get to my point.
Basically, he feels very strongly about me. I want to feel strongly about him as well but feel that his smothering and my desire to be independent are too much of a conflict. There's no real problem, I just feel like things are rushing too much and that we might spend too much time together and it may be the reason for my lack of interest in him. I tell him I love him but I'm not sure if I do, my mind has somewhat blocked out a lot of my feelings from my past relationship where I was sure I felt that way.. I've gotten closure from that, but this new relationship began less than a week after the last one ended.
If anyone's read this far, Thank you. Any input is gladly appreciated, welcomed, and hoped for. I know my thoughts were scattered all over throughout this.