My best guy friend won't talk to me anymore.

[Pajaropintado]

This friend and i have known each other for five years and in the time we've known each other, I fell in love with him -- but he's always had a girlfriend. Two years ago we fell out of contact until he appeared in my life this May. He had been telling me to go visit him (He lives in San Diego) and this last weekend, I finally decided to go.
Spent two days there, but I saw him in the morning and afternoon...so I can't say that we spent a loong time together, enough to make his girlfriend jelous (And she was okay with me coming over).
I got very emotional and wrote him in a letter that I considered him as my older brother and blah blah blah.

It's been a week since I've come back from that trip, and he has not talked to me AT ALL. ignored my texts...everything, so i've stopped talking to him as well.

Why would he just stop talking to me? Was I wrong in going to go visit him? Should I stop talking to him?
He had also told me a while ago that he liked me, if that matters.

Now I'm regretting even going over to see him in teh first place, though it did make me very happy.

He's 21 and i'm 20 by the way.

[smackie9]

It's his GF. She may have put on a friendly face around you but when you left she raised some hell about it. Us ladies are more perceptive about people's emotions and she noticed your feelings for him. She probably gave him an ultimatum:No more contact" or we are done type deal.

From your mention of him being like an older brother in the email you sent him, you think maybe that comment may have disappointed him and that's why he won't talk to you. Well that could be a possibility, but he would have told you how he felt about you as a last hope there could be something. It could be true that he does have feelings for you and wanted to see you again after all this time. But my money is on the GF making him choose between you or her. There could be issues in his relationship and wanted to have some comfort from you. It's only been a week. Let things cool down with his GF. I'm sure he will contact you again.

I have a question for you. If you are in love with him, why not just tell him?

[eloquent]

Him having a girlfriend made the you and him emotional connection very complicated. He may be giving you and him some space to clear out the forbidden feelings you both have for each other so its best that you give him the time he wants apart and with zero communication as well. Im sure he is aware that you wanted to talk to him so when he is ready, he will be the one to contact you and clear things out.